Post # 1
Out of curiosity, are there any plus size brides out there getting a videographer? I am absolutely drooling over the cinematic styled wedding videos. And my photographer has connected me with a really talented professional to do the job. But I’m hesitant to book them. I do not have an ideal figure, and while I’m confident I will feel amazing on my wedding day; I’m just not sure how great the groom & I will look on film.
Anyone out there feeling the same way?
Post # 3
I can’t think of much- but did you ever see Mrs. Scissors video- I think she’s a beautiful, curvy woman and everything about that video was amaze-balls magical. Most importantly and most memorably, the love in their faces the videographer captured perfectly.
Post # 4
I am having the same fear ronze03, but I think that our feelings will come through and shine in the video. I love myself the way I am so I can watch myself too…I hope~
Post # 5
You know, the only people who will be watching the finished product are you, and those who love you, who aren’t going to be judgemental (or shouldn’t be!)
This is my second time around, and the first time I was married, which was 1987, people were just starting to videotape weddings. I had a friend videotape that wedding and I am very glad I did, because, even though I divorced the man I married that day, I have very precious snippets of my parents, my grandma, aunts and uncles and one very dear friend, who have all passed away since then. I remember back then, the first time I saw the video, I was mortified because I felt like I was huge (I was all of size 18 then, at this point I would kill to be a size 18 again, LOL) now looking back at my 20 year old self, I don’t think I was half bad. If you can afford it, by all means videotape it. Years from now you will be glad you did.
Post # 6
Videotape it =) you’ll love the finished product!
Post # 7
You know that didn’t even cross my mind, but now that you bring it up….I’m picky enough when it comes to pics I’m in when I’m the one taking them, I feel I’ll hate the video :/ Yikes!!
Post # 8
I hate ALL pics and video of myself. Or at least 99.7%. Still, there is no way I would skip photos or video because one of these days, I will want to look at them and my Fiance thinks I am ridiculous with my self criticism, I can’t imagine denying her those memories. 🙂
On a related note, my mom videotaped the birth of my second child. Ugh! I was horrified, but secretly watched it anyway and it is soooo precious, even if I did cringe at my double chin!
Post # 9
I got a video and was worried about the same thing…
there are deff some parts i dont like (when we enter they sped it up and i jiggle alot when i walk in 🙁 but I wouldnt change my decision for the world. I love the video.
Post # 10
I hate my voice, lol. You know how we all sound different to ourselves? I sound…weird.
That’s more of my reasoning. I’m also going to politely ask if we can avoid being below my bodyline – please, don’t shoot upwards. LOL.
Post # 11
@Baileyh: Your video looks great. I’m not seeing any of what you saw; you looked gorgeous! Thank you for sharing.
And thanks to everyone else that has weighed in.
We did make a decision, and we’re going for it. =)
Post # 12
Bees; I just got a taste of this, and a nasty one at that. I’m in college and our Speech professor taped our first speech today (individual ones). Ugh!!! She emailed it to me, I didn’t want to see it, I am even less thrilled now about a wedding video but Fiance wants it to happen. I just look so much bigger (to me) and older on video than I do in real life. It doesn’t mesh with what I see in the mirror. I have the same issue with photos. It’s weird. I am generally happy with my appearance, size not mattering a whole lot when I look in the mirror. It’s just pics and video that make me all self-loathing like!
Post # 13
I am plus size and we got a videographer. Big or small I couldn’t imagine not having one.
Post # 14
@ronze073: We are our own worst critics! Like a PP mentioned, you and your loved ones are the only ones who will watch it and they love you for who you are. You’re going to cherish that beautiful video years from now, and I can’t imagine how you might feel after the wedding if you have regrets about not doing it.
I’d suggest talking to the videographer about your insecurities. I send a questionnaire out to all my brides and leave a big space called “Dear Photographer” where I promise to tell them if they have lipstick on their teeth or their hair is out of place but that I can’t know what to avoid unless you tell me. This is a place for brides and grooms to tell me about things they’d like me to be conscious of when shooting – “I hate my profile!” or “I have a nasty scar that I’d prefer not to show” or “please don’t showcase my back fat!” It helps me be mindful of your insecurities when I’m shooting so you don’t get your images back and have mixed feelings about it. Any great videographer would be thankful for the same heads up when they’re shooting – they want you to be happy with the final product!
Here are some tips:
– Ask them not to shoot really low angles – this isn’t flattering on anyone really, but especially not flattering for most full-figured women
– Higher angles are always slimming, so hopefully either you’re short or he/she is tall =)
– Standing at a bit of an angle instead of straight on will always help, so ask your videographer if he/she can try to shoot those side angles instead of straight on
– Posture posture posture! You would be shocked at how much this elongates your frame/neck.