Post # 1
I’m white American and my fiance is Vietnamese. His family lives in MI and we’re in TN so it’s hard to get with them on details. Also, they speak little to no English and my Vietnamese isn’t that great. I’m looking for some ideas to make our fusion wedding special. I’m doing tea ceremony and I’m wearing an Ao Dai. His family is Buddhist and i’m open (non-religious) so is there any Vietnamese Buddhist traditions? (he’s not religious either so he doesn’t know) Any other ideas?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsLe: The tea ceremony is usually the main portion of the ceremony unless your groom’s family wants to have a real Buddhist ceremony at the temple. But really, only my devoted Buddhist friends have done so — for most families, the tea ceremony is enough. The tea ceremony is usually done at home where you also pay respect to your ancestors and the other side brings your family goodies in red trays.
I’m Vietnamese American (born in MI too!) but my fiance is Japanese American. We’re doing the morning Vietnamese Tea Ceremony followed by a Vietnamese Catholic Ceremony. At the reception, we plan to do a Sake Toast instead of the traditional champagne toast. Are you going to “greet” the tables too? Maybe that’s a good time to incorporate some fusion.
Post # 4
You might also check with local Vietnamese restaurants to add components to your wedding dinner. If you have a grilled chicken option, make sure you have Vietnamese sauces, or maybe have a goi salad on the menu.