Post # 1
So I am half Vietnamese and my guy is full, we would like to go the traditional route and do the tea ceremony. Problem is no one has a clue as to how many people are actually needed to hold the red gifts as he comes to my house to take me to his home. Someone told us 5 guys and 5 girls and some one told us 7 guys and 7 girls. As I was searching online many sites have said 7 & 9 are a bad number and blah etc. Does anyone know the minimum number of people I need for the tea ceremony??
Please and thank you! 🙂
Post # 3
Commenting to follow. Also, I’m Filipino and my SO is Vietnamese, and we’ve talked about doing the ceremony as well. I’ll ask him if he has any idea about it as his sister did one when she got married.
Post # 4
Typically depends on how many “mam qua” you guys have. The typical ones are 1 for tea, 1 for xoi, 1 for fruit, 2 for roasted pig, best man carries wine in a tray, groomsmen carry bouquet (1 guy carry 2 for Maid/Matron of Honor since Bridesmaid or Best Man is carrying wine) You have as many receiving girls as you have guys. Depending on how big your family is, sometimes the trays are doubled since traditionally, the groom’s family will take home half of the gifts when they pick up the bride after the tea ceremony at her house for a tea ceremony at his house.
Post # 5
@mrsapham: sorry this is SUPER late — but i’m having a traditional viet tea ceremony too, and my parents said to have an even number of people b/c it’s supposedly better luck. Works out because we’ve got 4 groomsmen & 4 bridesmaids!
Post # 6
Definitely an even number is preferred to an odd number. But all the weddings I have ever been to it is usually 6 or 8. But it does depend on what is being given. I know one friend wedding I went to had either 10 or 12 so it just depends.