Post # 1
I’m second-generation Vietnamese (American-born). My father is very traditional and I’m getting married in less than a month- I’m not sure what he expects at the wedding/reception. I have a couple dress changes (ao dai) among others and I know that my partner and I should visit each table thanking guests at the reception. I’m not sure if there is anything else??? I tried asking my dad but he won’t say (and I’ll most likely learn what I did incorrectly after the fact).
Any tips appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2015 - Hakone Gardens, Saratoga
In terms of incorporating Vietnamese stuff into a western-style wedding, what you’ve described is pretty much all my cousins have done. Some have had ‘engagement parties’ a week or a few months before the wedding, which was basically the traditional Vietnamese wedding (groom’s family brings gifts to bride’s house, bride’s family goes to groom’s and has a little ceremony there, tons of food). You can look that up on Wikipedia; the article seems accurate to me, although different families omitted different things. Maybe you could read it over and see if there’s anything on there that you or your dad would like to incorporate into the ceremony or reception?
Post # 4
I am Vietnamese (1st Generation American like you). I am marrying a white guy. I think the biggest difference for wedding day is Tea ceremony before the wedding. Guy’s family brings gifts/dowrys to girl’s family. Parents present daughter to groom. Vietnamese food at reception. Introducing long list of family members at reception. Vietnamese singers (oh goodness.) Toasting at each table.