(Closed) View from a (former) bridesmaid..bridezilla?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

wow i’m sorry this is happening to you. she (AND her fiance) seems really childish.

I’d say ignore it (yes life IS too short) except there’s history of friendship between you guys and that’s why it hurt so much. i can imagine…as i’ve experienced  “cold shoulders” before from someone i considered really great friend. well, we’re not “friends” anymore = hope yours will work out better than mine.  

*huuuuuuuuuuuug*

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i wouldn’t so much say she’s a bridezilla as she is just a bitch.  i don’t think wedding stress is causing her to be this way- sounds like she just doesn’t care about anyone but herself.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good riddance!

Post # 6
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You’re not wrong. She missed the last bus out of crazytown.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

There’s a ringtone I have on my phone for whenever people I don’t like call me. Perhaps you are familiar with it? It’s by Ludacris.

The little ditty goes a little something like this:

“YOUS A HO!
OH!
YOUS A HO!
OH!
YOUS A HO
I SAID THAT YOUS A HO!”

Ludacris hasn’t let me down yet. I think he’s a good judge of character, especially in this situation.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ugh.  I’m sorry you have had to deal with all of that– she sounds like a real basket case.  How is it that women like this can find guys to marry them, when some truly sweet women with everything going for them are alone? Anyway, I understand your frustration, and I would distance myself from her for now.  Maybe it’s wedding crazies, or maybe she’s just crazy, but I would not deal well with that!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

@Torrid: LMAO! I love Ludarics to. LOL that was so unexpected.

OP, she’s completely out of order, i just love how people think being a bride entitles you to be a complete asshole. Screw her. I would just leave it alone, but if she steps out of line, I would TOTALLY call her out on her bullshit.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@bklynbridetobe: I’m glad you liked it! I thought it was very fitting for this situation!

OH!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

WOW.

 

Sounds like you lucked out here, now you don’t have to be friends with a totally crazy selfish person. And better yet, you don’t even have to explain to her why or deal with her trying to contact you and wanting to hang out. She saveed you some work there.

Post # 12
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Wannabee

I’m not sure I believe in being a “bridezilla.”  I feel like there’s a difference between focusing on details and seeking exceptional service and being cruel, disrespectful, inconsiderate, and rude.  I wonder if wedding planning just brings out the true nature of some people because they feel that have an “excuse” to say and do the things they’ve always wanted to say and do.  Under no circumstances is it acceptable to treat ANYONE that way, whether they do something you don’t like or not.  Neither you nor your bf did anything to warrant that kind of response!  You shouldn’t treat strangers that way, let alone your friends.  Maybe you should just forgive her and continute to be her friend (accepting that this is part of her character) or thank God for the heads up and cut your losses on this friendship.

Post # 13
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly if I were her, I’d be too embarrassed to remove a bridesmaid then ask her bf to be a groomsman…

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@chicogirl61: I have to completely agree about the “bridezillas”.  Expecting people to go out of their way and bend over backwards just because you demand it is selfish and bratty.

OP I agree with PP you totally dodged a bullet with her antics.  If you can’t act like an adult than maybe she shouldn’t get married.  What are her and her Fiance going to do whenever they get into fights?  Have a 3rd party pass notes back and forth between them?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

This couple has clearly lost sight of what is important and what friendship is all about. They seem much more concerned with having some kind of perfect wedding on paper than having the wedding that will celebrate their relationship and honor the ones who are closest to them.

If I were you and your SO, I would be so insulted at this point I probably would have no interest in being friends with either of them anymore. The fact that she kicked you out of the bridal party is one thing, but since she didn’t actually care enough to tell you directly right htere is a friendship-ender. Then clearly she didn’t care about your feelings at that point asking your SO to step up as a groomsmen. She should have understood how that would make you feel after being kicked out.

I think your hands are clean at this point and you can count them out of your lives.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

YEESH.  I’d say you dodged a bullet straight from crazytown. 

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