- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Apologies in advance ladies, this may be long! Just need to vent. 🙂
A good friend got engaged last spring. I’ve known her for 5 years, and was there when she met her fiance, also my friend. Their relationship was a bit controversial (long story), and it was kept a secret for a bit. I was the only one who knew about it for a while.
Anyways, she asked me quite early on if I would be a bridesmaid in her wedding. I agreed to it, and seeing as neither of our incomes are very high at the moment (I’m going back to school in the fall to further my career), I told her I do not have too much to spend on a dress, I expected maybe $150 at the most. She would always tell me not to worry. Her original dress she wanted for the bridesmaids were only about $120. Then suddenly it went to $200. Then $250. A week later it would be $300 plus alterations (we live in a small town). I told her I would have a hard time paying for it (as my loans are over 10K I have to pay back), but I could do it in small increments. I was told not to worry, she’ll figure something out and look into their budget.
This was about 2 months ago, and a week after she told me that, she had my SO (who is also good friends with them) tell me that she had replaced me in the wedding for someone her mom wanted more, and she didn’t want to tell me herself. We’re not children anymore, her fiancee is in his 30s, she and I are both in our 20s, so it angered me quite a bit as someone I thought was a good friend, can’t even come to tell me herself but has someone else do her dirty work.
I got over it, I don’t like to hold grudges, life is too short. Move forward a week or so, and my boyfriend meets me after work to tell me that she told him earlier that day a groomsman had just dropped out, and asked if he would take over. Now he’s not crazy about being in wedding parties (he wasn’t even in his brother’s), but he also thought it was a bit unfair the way she went about everything, so he told her he wasn’t quite sure. Immediately she told him if he doesn’t want to do it, just say no. So he declined. She got upset and walked off.
Move forward again to today which is about a month after this happened. He saw her out, and said hi. She proceeded to tell him she’s still mad how he “handled” it, how he shouldn’t have said no, and that he’s an asshole (her words). Then she told him not to bother talking to her again, and now she’s giving me the cold shoulder as well.
Am I wrong to think she’s being a bridezilla? Her fiance is also giving my boyfriend and I the cold shoulder. I feel so hurt over this, like we didn’t do anything wrong. Anyone experienced this before? I really don’t know what to do about it.