- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
PHEW! It’s over, and our bank account is forever (hopefully!) freed from that relentless and insatiable mistress named WEDDING.
Here is a recap and some pics:
Main features: low-key, non-traditional luncheon wedding in Marina del Rey, California. 60 guests, budget $10k (that included an open bar at our after party at Glow Lounge in Marina del Rey later that night).
Hubs and I had to compromise on the size of the wedding – he wanted big, I wanted small. In the end, we had a medium-sized wedding at a super cool and unique venue, and I think we were both satisfied.
We stayed within our $10,000 budget by choosing a venue and catering package that was well within that limit and being very discriminating when it came to deciding what we really wanted/needed and what we could do without.
Neither hub nor I are religious, and I hate being oohed and aahed at as well as being the center of attention, so non-traditional was definitely the way to go for us. We didn’t have a wedding party (just a best man), I mingled casually with my guests before the ceremony (so no big reveal on the aisle), I didn’t throw a bouquet or garter, we outsourced the cake-cutting to the servers, and we were married by the captain of the yacht.
Things I would definitely do again/recommend for future weddings:
– have the wedding on a boat. It was a fun and unique way to showcase Los Angeles to our cross-country guests and was surprisingly affordable.
– purchase an all-inclusive wedding package. The boat charter company did 90% of the planning for us, providing tables, cloths, chairs, servers, cleanup, bar, alcohol, cake, and officiant.
– flowers from Costco, 3 centerpieces for $30. I skimped on flowers because I know they are very expensive and would be troublesome to handle on the boat, where we have limited set-up and clean-up time. My mom, some female relatives and I made 11 boutonniers from a Costco bouquet 2 days before the wedding. It wasn’t very hard at all, and considering that even ugly boutonniers tend to be around $20-30 each, we probably saved around $250.
– I designed and created our invitations, guestbook, and cake toppers, which was fun for me and I’m really happy with how they turned out. Pics below!
– I wore a non-traditional cream-colored dress I bought on the internet. It was comfortable, pretty and cost $160.
– Providing parasols and skimmer hats for the guests worked out really well – people used them and they really added to the ambience!
– before the wedding, hub and I kept a “Master Plan” list of everything that needed to be done, and everything that was going to happen the day of the wedding. It helped keep us organized and sane the weekend of the wedding.
Things I would NOT do again:
– quibble with hubs about the size of the wedding. I was so sure I didn’t want a large wedding, but now I realize that even 60 guests felt large to me. I probably could have gone along with the 150 person guestlist hub wanted without feeling much more overwhelmed. But I don’t think I could say the same of our budget…
– let myself feel stressed the day of the wedding!
Here’s the boat, Zumbrota, built 1914 so 100 years old this year!:
Originally, we planned to have my dad (an amateur but awesome photog) photograph our wedding, but a week before the wedding my sis-in-law told me two of her friends were trying to build a portfolio for their wedding photography business and were willing to shoot our wedding for free! So some of the more traditionally wedding-y photographs are the professional photogs’:
I’m really happy with how the ceremony space decoration turned out. Hub and I were stumped for so long (flower garland? arch?) before coming up with the simple rope, tulle, and seagrass wreath idea. My mom, best friend, sis in law and I had about 10 minutes to figure out how to put it up the morning of the wedding, but as soon as it was up I about had a heart attack, it looked so perfect!
Hub and I walked together down the aisle to the song “The Greatest Adventure”, which you surely know if you were born in the 80s and have seen the animated version of “The Hobbit”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-_r1Npsv5I
Captain Chuck was soooo cute:
And we’re married!
I did my hair and makeup myself. I bought the gold headband from Etsy and added the gold veiling. A stylist could surely have done better with my hair, but I couldn’t be arsed to wake up at 4am or whatever godforsaken hour they’d surely have wanted to get started.
My seahorse shoes, and irrepressible bunions (life of the party, those guys!!):
I planned to garnish the welcome champagne glasses with strawberries, but Costco was sold out the night before (Labour Day – big weekend for strawberries), so instead I bought raspberries. Bonus: raspberries float, and I got to spend the night before the wedding in the hotel spa with my guests instead of in the bridal suite cutting strawberries.
The cake came with our wedding package, but hub and I were able to tell the bakery exactly what we wanted. Each layer was a different flavor, and we customized the “under/even with/above the sea” motif. I made the topper with colored Sculpy clay.
If you’re wondering, NO, I didn’t give hubs any back hair. These are not anatomically-accurate figurines, as evidenced by my over-sized seashells and mitten-hands.
The guestbook is more of a “guest page”. On cream paper, I gold-leafed the date and name of the boat and added a photo of young Zumbrota. Guests signed in the surrounding white space.
My new sis-in-law brought a framed copy of our invitation, which I designed and illustrated, to put on the guestbook table:
Hub’s friend brought one of those old-fashioned video cameras you have to crank and took a bunch of short clips. I can’t wait to see how it comes out!
And here’s hoping this pic-heavy post doesn’t break Weddingbee!