(Closed) virgin bride seeks condom advice

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

No, considering that you’re already getting hormonal BC, I would def. not worry about condoms!  They’re already just a backup.  Plus, if he’s a virgin, he sure as heck won’t mind the feel of condoms…!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think you need to get them ahead of time to try them out. As long as you guys know how to put it on the right way, I don’t think he needs to “try it on” especially considering you’re on BC.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

He will be fine! Promise 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i would not do condoms since you are already on BC.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You should be fine, if you’re taking the BC perfectly its generally 99.9% safe.  I have even had this talk with my gyno because I’m paranoid about becoming prego right now, she said were almost wasting our time worrying about using condoms on top of BC.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Condoms is an exclusive, committed relationship are fine, but generally not preferred, for a reason. Beyond just the feel, it can interupt intimacy, and when you are both in this tender moment, that probably isn’t the best.

My best advice is to trust in your birth control. Human error is much greater with condoms than with the shot.

If you are both still nervous, you could use a spermicidal lubricant. As an exclusive method, it isn’t super effective, but in combination with BC should allay fears.

Good luck! Take it slow, don’t expect too much, and have fun!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My husband and I were both virgins, though we didn’t wait until marriage.  My personal feeling was that I wanted to wait until I felt that IF we broke up afterwards, that I wouldn’t regret losing my virginity to that person.  I was, (and still am), on the pill, plus we use condoms, AND Vaginal Contraceptive Film (VCF).  We did NOT want a baby before we were married, and even though we’re married now, we are in the process of swtiching insurance providers, and they don’t cover pregnancy for at least a year. PLUS, I am in school right now, and I would hate to have to get up and go to class at 8:30 in the morning while dealing with morning sickness!

What we did was have a box of condoms, so that when we were ready, they were there.  Mr. Apricot had learned how to put them on in high school sex ed, so there were no problems, even the first time.  If you think it might be a problem, go ahead and buy a box for him to “practice” putting on, see how comfortable they are, etc.  I don’t know if you guys are having oral sex, but if you are, buy the flavored ones to try as far as putting them on, fit, feel, etc. and use them for oral so they don’t “go to waste”.

If you want to find out more about your other options for birth control, check out plannedparenthood.com – they have some GREAT information on the different options, and pros and cons of each.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

As long as you’re on birth control, you should be fine. If both of you weren’t virgins, I’d recommend you both getting tested for STD’s before having sex without a condom. But you should both be safe.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

We use condoms, because hormonal birth controls make me a crazy lady, but if I could take a hormonal birth control, we wouldn’t use them.  I know everyone always talks about how it feels better for the guy, but I know it fells better for me aswell.  Also, it’s a pain in the butt to have to stop and deal with a condom.  AND they smell. Smile You’re fine just using one form of birth control.  You can also keep track of your cycle and avoid days when you ovulate.  Even if you don’t avoid your “fertile time” I still recommend keeping track, so you know when something is off

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

especially since the shot has less human error than taking a pill same time, every single day, i would not even bother with condoms, to be honest.  Besides, you’ll be married by then! Better than if you had an oops before 🙂

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