Ok. I feel weird typing this but I want to get real with you. Get naked and check yourself out in the mirror. You might notice some imperfections (you might not!). Now, take some time to recognize immediately that you are way more critical of yourself than other people are. Think back to a time you were self conscious about an outfit and everyone loved it. Or you thought your hair looked weird but then it looked wonderful in a photo. Your Fiance loves you and he will not be judgmental. He will be in awe.
Now, if you are more comfortable wearing a baby doll or some kind of nightgown then do it. The most important thing is that you do what makes you feel comfortable, but if you want my opinion, just be naked. This man will be your husband at this point. It’s ok to be nervous, he will be too! But eventually you are going to be naked in front of him, so why not on your wedding night? But again, don’t feel pressured to do something that doesn’t feel right for you.
Regardless of what you wear, this is an important time to establish a good line of communication about each other’s needs in the bedroom. Tell him how you feel. If something feels good, say so! This feedback is very important for men. If he is not being very communicative, ask him if he likes something. I know that feels awkward and intimidating, but down the road you will be grateful you have an open line of communication. As other Bees have mentioned, it takes time to get to know each other’s bodies. It’s best if you both feel comfortable guiding each other in the right direciton.
And speaking of providing guidance, if you aren’t already, get familiar with your body. I don’t know anything about your religious affiliation or other reservations, but you don’t have to do anything your’re not ok with. I don’t mean to be condescending if this is not an issue for you, but make sure you know where all the relevant anatomical items are. This will be immensely helpful to him. If you guys are feeling adventurous, it might be fun to get a little book on sexual positions and such, and experiment with them on your honeymoon. This will help both with communication and finding what you both like. I would stick with missionary the first few times. It’s definitely the most comfortable to start, but over your honeymoon you might want to try something else. A book might sound weird, but it may be less awkward then being like “ok you go over there, and I’ll sit here like this…” But maybe that’s not true. Maybe a book sounds horrid to you. Now is a good time to repeat my mantra: don’t feel pressured to do something that doesn’t feel right to you.
As for the pain, ok yeah it might hurt. Some women don’t experience any pain though. Don’t psych yourself out. It’s nothing you can’t handle, trust me. Foreplay is key. This goes straight to communicaiton. Just experiment and go slowly. You’ll figure it out. Having a glass or two of wine will help. Don’t let him get too drunk though, this sometimes has adverse effects for men in the bedroom. Afterwards, if you have any lingering discomfort, opt for an ibuprofin (advil). It’s anti-inflammatory and is the best pain medicine when you are experiencing bleeding.
Above all else: do not freak out! This is a wonderful experience and you will be sharing it with the man you love under the most beautiful of circumstances. You two will figure it out together. Enjoy your wedding!