(Closed) Virgin Wedding Night

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know exactly what kind of advice you’re looking for, but here’s what I can tell you.  My Darling Husband and I were both virgins that night.  Just take it slow!!!  If it doesn’t happen that night, that’s what the honeymoon is for.  It won’t be perfect right away (just means you need to practice a lot 😉 ).  

Darling Husband took the lead that night and had snacks in our room for us (both of us managed to eat at the wedding, but he had no idea if we would or not.) 

Lube is really important – it’s helped us a lot. 

Relax and enjoy it.  DH had scattered candles and rose petals all around the room and it was great.  Really special and something we’ll always remember. 

Wear something you’re comfortable in, but you still feel sexy in. 

Congrats on making it to your wedding night! Have a great time 🙂 

Post # 4
7685 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, and very much agree with this  @hogoboom2012:   (except my Darling Husband didn’t do the candles and rose petals, oh well). If I have one piece of advice it is: don’t set your expectations high! It may be painful but it will almost certainly be awkward and over too quick. But it improves a lot over the first few weeks and months.

Post # 5
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with pp – Go slow, have fun, don’t set your expectations too high but trust that you two know eachother and will be able to work at it and have fun together. Talk through what you are feeling and laugh when it’s funny and awkward. Remember you have your whole honey moon and LIFE to learn to be better and better. Don’t compare yourself to others – this is your relationship. And yes lots of lube helps : ) but just have fun! Congrats : )

Post # 6
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jbridea:  I was a virgin when I married Darling Husband a year ago and he had been celebate for 5 years.

Take it slow and just know that you won’t be having porn star sex for a long time LOL. I will give you the advice I gave my friends who were virgins too and got married two weeks ago: it may hurt the first time. Get some lubricant. We still have to use Astroglide. Don’t be alarmed if he doesn’t last all that long and don’t be alarmed if he can’t penetrated you fully. My husband is well endowed and it took two full weeks, even with lube, before he could fully penetrate me. Long before then though the pain had stopped and the pleasure had set in. It took me about a week to start having orgasms with penetrative sex. Also, sex is a learned skill. You have to keep at it to grow in skill.

Explore what feels good to you and let your husband know. The physical part of sex is nice but it’s the emotional part that makes it great because you love your husband. It’s more than sex: it’s lovemakingLaughing

Post # 7
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@jbridea:  Also, be patient with your orgasms!  You may not have one right away, and some women can’t have them at all through penetration alone.  Figure out what works for you and don’ t have any expectations of what “should” happen or what’s “normal”. 

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