Post # 1
If you consult the wedding industrial complex, STD’s are a must. But given the economic situation, and facing the reality of a small budget, are printed STD’s really worth the expense (cost of the STD itself [e.g. paper, design, printing, etc.], postage, time involved, etc.)?
I’m interested in what others around here think of STD’s. Did you use them? If so, what did you use? How many months in advance of your wedding date did you send them? I’ve heard of e-mailing STD’s. The problem with that is what about the older guests who either do not have access to a computer? Also, it’s easy to delete e-mails and completely forget about them.
In the past, I have had only 2 weddings with a STD. One of them I completely forgot about because I received the STD several months before (6 months) the actual wedding and it got piled up with other miscllenanous papers that tend to pile up (bills, receipts, etc.). The other was my brother’s wedding, so that was a bit different. Other weddings I have just received an invitation.
The more I think about it, the less justification I have for spending the extra money on STD’s. In many ways, I fail to see their usefulness. My thinking is that if you send the invitation with enough advanced notice, there is no need for a STD, and another way you can save money for something else.
Penny for your thoughts?
Post # 7
In a day with haried emails and what not, I think a lovely phone call to let someone know that you genuinely want them to be there at your special day is highly valued.
I think that in the future, invites will come via email. GASP!
Post # 8
I JUST got my Save-The-Date Cards printed, and they are amazing! I was on the fence about them, but then I realized I have a few things against me: 1) ALL of my family is out of state 2) My wedding is in January, and I was afraid people would space it in a post-holiday stupor and 3) It’s on a Sunday evening, to boot. So I put a cute design together in Photoshop, and voila! STDs! Mine cost <$25, too. Easy on the budget.
Post # 9
In my opinion, STD’s only apply to destination weddings.
Post # 10
I agree MsHymanRoth — unless you want to do something cute, Save-The-Date Cards are only necessary when guests will have to make travel arrangements. Even in that case, you can make phone/email/ personal contact with your impacted guests. I didn’t do Save-The-Date Cards, but I did make sure that everyone I wanted to come knew when and where my wedding was going to be well before the invitations went out.
You could also do the Vistaprint route with postcards, too, if you want to explore a cheaper option.
Post # 11
We did STD’s because we have a very high proportion of Out of Town guests (90%!) We’re from different regions, and many of my "friends from home" moved away after highschool, so even though we’re getting married in my hometown, only my mom’s friends and a few others are local.
One thing I’m feeling is a disadvantage of STD’s now: we invited LOTS of far-away friends & family friends, and let our mothers invite far-away family we weren’t especially close to, thinking that it would be nice to see them if they happened to be able to come. We expected that about half would actually make the trip, and budgeted accordingly.
Now we’re hearing from dozens of people who are planning their vacations around our wedding – stopping in on their way up to Maine, capping off their week-long Boston trip, etc. STD’s are giving us a much higher attendance rate than we planned for. We can afford it, but it’ll be a strain on the budget.
In retrospect, I sort of wish I had either delayed the STD’s so that fewer people planned their vacations around us, or else I wish I had sent a casual email STD to the people I was *really* worried about and *very* close to. Oh, well… it’ll be a big party!
Post # 12
I did do STDs- a little note with a magnet. However, I was having a semi-destination wedding and pretty much needed a headcount from the Save-The-Date Cards before doing much planning. So for me it was a must.
My cousin also did them. However, her mom had passed away unexpectedly and the STD was a way for her to let people know that she was still going to have the wedding.
In most cases, I don’t think paper Save-The-Date Cards are necessary. It’s nice to get them, but I think an e-mail is just fine.
However, I do think it’s great to let your guests know the wedding is coming- but e-mail would suffice (and could actually let you get really creative with something you could never afford to print).
Post # 13
If you don’t think you need them, or can’t afford them, then don’t bother.
I did STD postcards (Vistaprint, at the time 100 postcards free, just paid shipping) because 63 out of 163 guests are out-of-state and the wedding is on a holiday weekend. So because of the low cost and holiday weekend, I felt justified to send them out. I guess I should mention that I ONLY sent them to out-of-state guests so far. I’m debating if sending them out to local friends and family is necesary… I probably won’t, they all know when we’re getting married.
I will say that postcards get lost in the mail easier it seems. Some people never got them. Including my FI’s grandma who thought it was a "sign" that she wouldn’t live long enough to see the wedding. Poor thing, of all the misdirected postcards she had to not get hers.