(Closed) Visiting the 20 board

posted 7 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 3
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not only was I once that young, but I even got married that young.  However, I was not that dim, even when I was that age.

Post # 4
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@2dbride….Wow – “I was not that dim, even when I was that age”….a bit harsh dont you think? 

Not all of us 20 somethings are dim….

Post # 5
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL @retreadbride:  I actually envy where you are in life!  We 20-somethings are usually still unsure about where our lives and careers are headed.  We’re trying to find houses and jobs, still finishing up school, and in general trying to “find ourselves” while planning a wedding.  A lot of big changes going on at once!

@2dbride:  Please leave the age-ism out.  The reason I frequent WeddingBee is because those kinds of remarks are few and far between on this forum.  Thanks.

Post # 6
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@2dbride:  I’m 24.  Could you please share what it is about my age alone that makes me dim?   I’d really love to know.

Post # 7
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve just turned 30, but I think these comments and the other board “20 somethings – what are your wedding songs” are odd. I haven’t found any real discrepancy in opinions, tastes, worries, and excitement amongst any ages of bees on weddingbee. I just went and specifically visited the 20 something board and didn’t see anything off-putting or immature (which is what I assumed I was supposed to be looking for) and when I read the “20 something brides – what are your wedding songs,” I saw lots of songs that were classic and older…although the heading implied this was ONLY for young brides with maybe younger music tastes?

I agree with jenbrandner, let’s keep the snarkiness to a minimum, and celebrate that we are all brides who are unique and different!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@2dbride – Typically I wouldn’t respond to a comment like yours and let the others have their say, but I’m sorry, I can’t leave this one alone. Calling 20-somethings dim is horribly offensive and I had always thought you were a very open minded person (based on your posts). WeddingBee is a great forum for brides to share their enthusiasm and excitement about their upcoming weddings, don’t spoil it with snarky and rude comments.

I have a degree, a diploma and run my own company. Dim is the last word I would use to describe myself, your generalizations are not needed here.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Sorry, I did not mean to say that all 20-somethings were dim.  I was responding to what I believed were the original posts that led the OP to ask the question.

Post # 10
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I realize that there have been some particularly, er, interesting posts lately and it’s fun to laugh at them. But seriously? There are dim people of all ages… and I must say, plenty of the posters that I get a good chuckle over are not in their 20s. 

Post # 11
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Frankly, I think it is the hyper-sensitivity that is really off-putting. Clearly the two posts starting the thread were in regards to something in particular, otherwise they make no sense, just as 2dBride explained.

She apologized, let it go.

Post # 13
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im sorry but that comment about “dim” really offended me. I’m a 22 year old turning 23 and feel that I am more mature, smarter and accomplished than alot of people my age, and lots of people that are older than I am as well. It hurts that you would generalize such a comment to an entire group of people.

Maybe take a step back and think about all of us “young things”……think about how stressful it is to be a bride in the first place and then add on the part where you need to defend your choice and prove to everyone that you are ready to marry someone simply because to some you are “too young.” I could care less about what others think about my decisions, but it’s incredibly frustrating and stressful and adds a whole lot of negative vibes to what is supposed to be a great and happy day.

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

She apologized and explained her answer. I think it’s pretty clear that she didn’t mean any harm.  By refusing to show the maturity it takes to let it go and move on, you’re only reinforcing her point.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

sweet first post

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