Visiting While Sick?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 17
3333 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Sine she had been on medication I’m assuming her doctor reassured her that she wouldn’t be contagious & could visit you. I find it odd that you knew she was on meds and for how long but asking what she had is crossing the line. I’m pregnant and Work in public health, wash you hands and you don’t share food. You will be fine.

Post # 19
2089 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

The most polite thing would have been for her to call you ahead of time. She could have said that she is sick and ask you if she should visit. Just because she took the meds doesn’t mean she is no longer contagious. What if she had a virus and not a bacterial infection? I always give people a heads up if I’ve been sick and if they want me to stay home, I will. In your case with you being pregnant, I’d even more likely give you a heads up. 

Post # 20
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Hm it’s a little rude, but not the end of the world.

If you had a newborn – she should definitely say something and NOT visit!! The first time I was going to see my cousin’s baby, I got a sore throat the night before that I knew was going to turn into a full-blown two week cold. So I messaged her saying that I was sick and couldn’t go, and met the little one a month afterward. Hopefully she shows the same courtesy when your baby arrives.

Post # 21
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

trekstar :  I get pretty bad sinus infections, and have been on antibiotics but will still have a pretty severe cough while taking them so while I’m not contagious, it’s still quite obnoxious.

If it were me I would have cancelled. And, if it were me I guess I would have just come out and asked “Are you contagious?” When she showed up obviously sick and talking about being on medication and what not, seems like a pretty reasonable question especially considering this girl is the sister you never had. I’d then let her know in the future I’d appreciate it if we cancel plans when one of us is sick, for the sake of the rest of the group.

Post # 23
1493 posts
Bumble bee

Personally I think it’s rude. Especially since you are also pregnant. Sounds like you were kinda trapped into the situation. As a PP mentioned she should have called. 

Post # 24
6335 posts
Bee Keeper

I dunno I think this is a bit of an overreaction. It’s not like it was just going out for dinner, it was a major holiday celebration! Assuming she doesnt have like, tuberculosis and you practice proper handwashing you will be fine. If you were outdoors (as most fireworks are..) you’ll have encoutered hudnreds if not thousands of other people – many of who may have been sick. Plus, you dont know if maybe she didn’t want to go and her spouse really wanted her to or she got in trouble for missing the last meet up, etc. That said, I would just make sure she knows rules for when baby comes. 

Post # 25
1017 posts
Bumble bee

Generally I would be thinking, yeah, it’s definitely impolite of her, but I probably wouldn’t worry too much.  However, right now I have a cold, and I know it’s not going to kill me and I have every faith in my immune system, but I am coughing and sniffing and I’m very grumpy and reminiscing fondly about last week when I didn’t have a cold.  So I completely get why you wish she’d stayed home.  I wish whoever gave me this cold stayed home.

Post # 26
3905 posts
Honey bee

Sansa85 :  No. They may have given her an antibiotic, but that won’t help if it was a virus. Sneezing is more viral than bacterial. Too many MDs hand out scripts for abt tx when it’s very likely the problem is viral. But we don’t know what she took.

Bottom line is this girl should know better than than to be sneezing and coughing near a pregnant woman ffs. I would have removed myself from her presence.

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