Post # 1
Hello, I’ve recently started a vow writing and assistance service(we also do best man and bridesmaid toasts) and I realized something. While I do know how to craft some beautiful pieces and am able convey what is in a couple’s heart, to really be successful I should take into account what people like or dislike about vows, things they wish they’d done differently, and what they feel makes vows special.
So I’m posing these questions to you. What do you feel makes vows special? If you’ve married before or are gently just what do you wish you’d done differently? Are there vows you’ve heard that just left you unmoved?
I went to a wedding where the groom had everyone sobbing with his unique and genuine vows, and then the bride(who I love) did the generic vows, which was nice too, but it wasn’t the same. Let’s just say her hubby was a hard act to follow! Capturing the love between the couple and the uniqueness therein is hard, but maybe you all can help me approach vow writing and writing bestman/bridesmaid speeches/toastsbetter with a fresh perspective.
Post # 2
So, we both wrote our own vows. We submitted them to our officiant so she could make sure they were the same tempo, length, tone etc.
She’s done 100’s of marriages, so I trusted her when she gave me feedback. They remained a secret until the ceremony and his were fabulous. He’s not a very verbal/cuddly guy so it was nice to see him write something sweet and tender.
Mine were quite sentimental, then I put a little golf joke in there then finished on a more serious note. Its nice to sometimes alter the ‘mood’ instead of being 100% funny or 100% serious.
Post # 3
So many of the best vows just come from years of getting to know each other. The things that made me laugh and cry that my husband said were so personal (but fine for saying in front of people) and ditto me to him.
Post # 4
Dara Crawley : what makes them feel genuine is when the vows are personal, written by the couple (and not generic) and show how well they know each other and how they make each other happy in little ways.
Post # 5
It’s nice seeing everyone’s comments because it tells me my thinking is on the right track. so far I’ve been trying to keep everything honest while still adding the flare couples want to share with their loved ones. THank you all so much for commenting.
Post # 6
Dara Crawley : We wrote our own vows, and the officiant did minor rewrites for rhythm, which we reviewed and approved.
Since you are offering a vow writing service, I hope you won’t mind the following comment – you wrote “while still adding the flare” and I believe you meant “flair.” 🙂