Vow Fever

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How soon to start writing vows?
    6 months or more...there's no such thing as too much of a head-start! : (11 votes)
    52 %
    3-5 months beforehand : (4 votes)
    19 %
    1-2 months : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Less than a month : (4 votes)
    19 %
    The night before/morning of, I work best under pressure! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Write them as soon as you’re ready.  You can always go back and change them.  And if you’ve got ideas now you may forget the way you worded them later when you’re down to the wire.

    Post # 3
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    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I already wrote mine and my wedding isn’t until September. 

    Post # 4
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    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    We’re not writing our own vows but I’m writing the entire ceremony. I would say if you’re planning on keeping your vows secret (which sounds nice to me) I would at least get together and discuss what mood you’re going for (light-hearted, traditional, sappy), whether you’re going to use a certain structure (i.e. a strict “I vow to…” structure or a looser letter type feel), and how long to aim for so that they sound somewhat complementary.

    Post # 7
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    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    msmeow13 :  I have not. I wrote mine actually a couple months ago when I was feeling inspired. LOL. I was just in a writing mood so I kind of just threw up my words on paper. 

    I am actually still convincing my Fiance to write our own vows. He isn’t super keen on the idea but i’d really like to, although I know it will be a little nerve wracking for me. If he really doesn’t want to I’m willing to give it up. I’m kind of nervous mine suck anyways LOL

    Post # 8
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    9461 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We started writing ours (we wrote them together) 6 months or more before the wedding. They were a work in progress throughout our engagement. Turned out perfect so I think giving ourselves a good chunk of time to work on them was the right move.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    msmeow13 :  Personaly I think that vows are bascially the most important part of hte whole marriage thing and that they get WAY too little attention.  I think that it makes sense to start working on them as early as you can.

    And personally, I think that your vows are something that you and your Fiance should write togeher.  Vows are litterally the promises you are making by marrying one another.  It kind of makes sense to talk about what marriage means to each of you and agree on a set of vows, right?

    Post # 10
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

    I majored in English, so I felt pressured to make my vows absolutely perfect. I started researching ideas about 8 months before and actually started writing about 4 or 5 months before. I’m really happy with how mine came out.

    Darling Husband works better under pressure. He wrote his literally the night before (after we got home from the rehearsal). Without giving away anything I was going to say, I e-mailed him a few of the really helpful things I had come up with and the overall structure of mine, so he could write something similar (if he wanted to). I think his came out really well too…although I must admit I was really stressed/nervous about him not starting sooner!

    Post # 11
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I started mine today….wedding is next Friday. I’m a massive procrastinator though!

    Post # 13
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    5898 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    msmeow13 :  Darling Husband and I ended up settling on having a core set of vows that we both said and that we wrote together.  But we each did out own little pre-amble that was written invididually and was a surprise.  The pre-amble talked about why we loved one another and were chosing to get married, while the vows were the promises we were making to one another.  I felt like it worked.

     

    And all this talk of vows made me just go and re-read them.  Aww, they are sweet and the indivdual part really makes it.  I always meant to frame these to put in our bedroom and I’ve never done it.  I should do this for our upcoming 5th anniversary.

    Post # 15
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    5898 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    msmeow13 :  I think I will!  I wonder if I could find an artist on Etsy to turn them into something really pretty, or maybe a caligrapher or something.  It would be cool to get it produced on a 5×7 car or something so that I could easily swap it into different frames over time as decor choices change.

    When I read our vows they sort of feel like a marriage mission statement, and something that’s good to reflect on every so often.  Our vows weren’t fancy or too unusual, but they feel extremely resonant and like what matters most to be about marriage.

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