- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
We wrote our own vows too, and I think I was feeling inspired about 5 months or so before the wedding so I just started working on them in a Google document. I also wrote the rest of the ceremony, so I was getting inspired by that process. I got tons of ideas from A Practical Wedding, especially their round-ups of reader vows, ceremony highlights, and secular readings. That site is an amazing resource if you haven’t checked it out yet!
I did share my vows with my husband before the wedding so he could see the tone I was going for. It was important to me not to have a mismatch where one person goes sentimental and heart-felt and the other goes funny. At first I just told him the length I had written, but then I wanted to give him the option to see the format I used, and he liked it too. We both talked about the things we love best about each other before going into the promises we were making to one another. Mine were a bit more traditional, I think.
I put both sets of our vows, plus the readings our siblings did, in our wedding album (not the versions we gifted our families, just ours). We can refer to them whenever we want, that way. They’re a bit long for a framed print I think, though I considered that too!