Vow Fever

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How soon to start writing vows?
    6 months or more...there's no such thing as too much of a head-start! : (11 votes)
    52 %
    3-5 months beforehand : (4 votes)
    19 %
    1-2 months : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Less than a month : (4 votes)
    19 %
    The night before/morning of, I work best under pressure! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 16
    Member
    1069 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    We wrote our own vows too, and I think I was feeling inspired about 5 months or so before the wedding so I just started working on them in a Google document. I also wrote the rest of the ceremony, so I was getting inspired by that process. I got tons of ideas from A Practical Wedding, especially their round-ups of reader vows, ceremony highlights, and secular readings. That site is an amazing resource if you haven’t checked it out yet!

    I did share my vows with my husband before the wedding so he could see the tone I was going for. It was important to me not to have a mismatch where one person goes sentimental and heart-felt and the other goes funny. At first I just told him the length I had written, but then I wanted to give him the option to see the format I used, and he liked it too. We both talked about the things we love best about each other before going into the promises we were making to one another. Mine were a bit more traditional, I think.

    I put both sets of our vows, plus the readings our siblings did, in our wedding album (not the versions we gifted our families, just ours). We can refer to them whenever we want, that way. They’re a bit long for a framed print I think, though I considered that too!

    Post # 17
    Member
    8174 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    msmeow13 :  

    Whenever you want to start I think is fine .

    Personally I am quite traditional about vows and prefer the ancient  form ( without   the obey  stuff of course !)

    I am always deeply cringed when people publically make  long , flowery, intensely personal vows about their undying love and  intentions to do whatever for their partner . It feels like voyeurism, and the language can get Hallmarkly mawkish .   

    Apparently I am an old curmudgeon…..

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