(Closed) Vow Renewal

posted 6 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@amanda110912:  All etiquette-wording questions on this topic aside, I would advise you to ask the clergy member at your church who will be performing your October ceremony how you should word your invitations. The reason I am sayhing this is that it’s possible that he or she will not agree to perform an actual wedding if a couple is already married.

For example, there is a couple in our church that had their wedding already scheduled; however, they realized that they needed to be married prior to that date. My husband is the pastor, and he married the couple privately, in his office, a couple of months prior to the scheduled “wedding.”  The couple still had bridesmaids and groomsmen standing with them, still had a flower girl, and still had a big reception with family and friends following the ceremony.  However, my Darling Husband led the couple through a renewal of their original vows instead of actually performing a wedding ceremony, because the couple had already been wed.  At the end, there was no “pronouncement” of the couple as having just been joined, because they previously had been joined. However, my Darling Husband did “present” the couple, because they are, in fact, a couple.

I think you’ll receive a lot of differing advice from the bees what you should do.  I believe the most important advice to seek is that from the person who will be officiating your wedding.

Post # 5
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11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@amanda110912:  Sure! I’m glad that you were able to speak with your pastor about this. That’s great!  I also think that it’s wonderful that you said that you “want to do the right thing in all ways.”  That is a very God-honoring statement! 🙂

Since you wrote that, I do want to ask you a question, even though it’s clearly none of my business, and you certainly don’t have to answer if you don’t want to do so.  However, if your faith is important to you, do you have any concerns about marrying someone who is not at all interested in your faith?

Post # 7
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6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@amanda110912:  In the event that he may never go or may change his mind, would that still be OK to be married to him in your eyes?

 

“In order for my pastor to marry us we must both be members of the church and that would require Brandon to go with me to a counseling session”

What does Brandon think about this?

Post # 9
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6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@amanda110912:  That’s a great place to start!  Maybe ask your pastor how to word the invitations, if he’ll conduct a ceremony that is just symbolic (since you’ll be legally married by then).  Then go from there or come back and update us!

 

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