Post # 1
Hi all! My parent’s 40th wedding anniversary is 2 years away. They have been an amazing example of love for our whole family and I was planning to talk with my siblings (I have 4) to see if they were interested in getting together and surprising them with a vow renewal in Ireland. I was wondering if anyone else has hosted a surprise vow renewal for their parents anywhere and/or hosted their own in Ireland? I would love tips as I start the planning process!
Post # 2
Never done anything like that, just wanted to comment and say that’s very sweet of you and I bet they’ll LOVE it!
Post # 3
Thank you! They haven’t travelled too much outside of the US, but they have always wanted to go to Ireland together at some point (we are Irish/German ancestry) so it would be so perfect to be able to do that for them! I think if we start planning 2 years out that will make it a little easier to plan and save up!
Post # 4
No matter how happily married any couple is, I don’t think it’s a good idea to spring a surprise vow renewal on anyone. This is a decision that a couple should make for themselves.
I would plan the trip but ask them if they wanted to do a vow renewal .
Post # 5
I absolutely agree with that – my plan currently is to see if my siblings would be interested in doing this and if they would be, we would let my dad in on the surprise and have him take the lead on the vows portion (my mom is retired so her schedule is much more flexible). If he would prefer to let her know beforehand, then obviously we would let her know.
Post # 6
I love the idea. But agree with pp that a renewal should be discussed. You have a great and sweet idea for your folks! Dad will need to be in on it to be able to help sort out things like passports too.
You sound like a great daughter!
Post # 7
The anniversary trip is an awesome and very generous idea, but both parents should be involved in the decision to renew their vows (or not). I’ve been married 20 years (almost) I know that’s not 40, but it’s pretty long, and I gotta be honest, there have been periods when I would not have been willing to renew my vows. I’m sure over the next 20, there will be more times like that. Few and far between, and I’m always committed to my original vows, but renewing them is a very personal decision that neither kids nor husband should make without mom/wife’s input too. I would be so unbelievably thrilled if my kids and/or husband planned a trip like this, but even now in the middle of a long happy period, I would not appreciate having a surprise vow renewal sprung on me. Good luck and have fun planning!
Post # 8
Why not just treat them to a wonderful family vacation and leave the vow renewal out? A lot of people think the vows they made on their wedding day were forever and don’t need renewing. It’s one thing if they come up with the idea on their own but when it is someone else’s idea, it doesn’t always work out so well. Too risky!