Post # 17
I definitely understand your questions because I too have/had the same questions. My husband is in the military as well we had a formal wedding August of 2011 and will be renewing our vows for our 5 year anniversary with a 2nd ceremony because we both come from huge families and so many people were not able to attend because of it being out of state and the economy (we had about 65 people there)…that may not seem small to some people but let me break down my family for you my mother has 13 siblings, all except 3 have at least 2 kids, my grand mother had 7 siblings, my grandfather had 21 siblings, my dad has 7 siblings, nr other grandmother has 5 siblings that I know of but she was adopted and there are more whom I don’t know about we are ALL close and this is just from my side of the family….my husband has a huge family as well so for us that is extremely small.
I have been thinking about ettiquette and all of that stuff but I am like WHATEVER I am doing what I want to do this is our day again and our money and we will be happy :)! Also my mom walked me down the aisle which was part of the plan anyway both of my parents where supposed to walk me down the aisle but due to circumstances beyond our control my father was unable to attend so I want to have that moment and to be able to dance with my father… :)! So I am sure that people will have things to say about our vow renewal and it not being traditional and i could care less besides I have never been traditional….I am ME and I LOVE IT!
Post # 18
I’m doing a VR as well (for our 20th anniveresary though). I say…. I’ts YOUR party do it YOUR way:) I’m having a dress, a whole reception, the gammot.
I love the idea of the kids walking with you down the Aisle. My kids are older, this is how I am hoping it to go…
My son (26) will walk first, say a few words… Then my daughter (25) will do the same thing…
My youngest (17) will walk me down the aisle, he has Aspergers (a form of Autism) and doesn’t like being the center of attention.
My daughter will stand with me, my sons will stand with my husband…
Then let the party begin!!!!
Throw etiquette to the wind! Sounds like you guys have been through alot in your 5 years… make it the day of YOUR dreams… I’m having the dress of my dreams, the fun, we are renewind where we originally married 20 years ago.
Just have fun, and who cares what others think:)
Post # 19
We are doing a vow renewal next year for our 10th. This time we our really enjoying the planning and not having a time line dictated by a combination of Mother-In-Law and INS :). Last time I pretty much just showed up to pre selected everything.
I would think of it this way, the first time was (as emotional and loving as it was) more of a legal proceeding. We don’t have a lot of say over how legal proceedings commence. This time is a celebration, with a lot more personal touches and input.
Post # 20
We are doing this as well. We eloped in Las Vegas for personal reasons in December of 2009. In September we had a “reception” at our town hall, which turned into my dads side of the family on one side of the hall and my stepdads family on the other. There was no real interaction between any of the guests. No one ate the cake that I spent hours making, or even touched the favors.
We are planning a vr in January 2014, and doing the “big wedding” Since there was no ceremony, I will be having my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. We are wanting a religious theme to it since the in laws do not recognize our marriage since we were not blessed. (They came to the states in the early 90’s from Eastern Eurpoe)
We will be inviting close family members and friends only, as we don’t have many. We are doing things our way, screw what you are “supposed” to do, and do what makes you happy!!
Best wishes to you all!
Post # 21
Hello Ladies…i just joined this site today.We will be doing a destination vow renewal for our 25th anniversary.I am torn between Mexico and Jamaica. Also need advice on what to wear.I want a beach ceremony.I am thinking of getting a dress first of the year to get it out of the way…Help!!!
Post # 22
I like the idea, We are recently married and plan of having a vow renewal too but not until our 15th anniversary. I like the idea of your step son walking walking you half way meeting your husband. And have your daughter to be the flower girl.
You can invite who ever you want. If a vow renewal, its not expected to have everyone from your wedding to be there. Your immedidate family and closest friends are fine.