(Closed) Vowing to always look good for your husband

posted 4 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: Do you believe staying attractive is important in a marriage?

    yes, you should always look good for your husband

    no, your husband should love you the way you are

  • Post # 16
    9565 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We both want to stay fit and healthy so we live a long time, but do I put makeup on and dress sexy every waking moment of my life? Hell no

    Post # 17
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m sure I looked real good last night puking in the bathroom. So good that my husband put my hair up in a bun, got a cool rag for my neck, a bottle of water, and rubbed my lower back when it got sore from being hunched over. I’m growing our child, I look terrible all the time. And if he can’t love me with pregnancy pimples, my new stretch marks, and constant sickness, then he doesn’t deserve to be my husband.

    Post # 18
    2593 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

     This is so laughable. Seriously. It’s a joke, right? He bought her a rumba? Lol. Yeah. If your relationship is based primarily on your looks / sex appeal & his money…. that’s prostitution. Not an ideal relationship, at all. 

    Post # 19
    673 posts
    Busy bee

    We both agree we should make the effort leaving the house. So unless we’re heading to the gym or for a walk, we make sure we look decent. So work, date night, visiting, shopping etc we make an effort. But in the house we’re both anything goes. So PJs, sweatpants, naked – whatever you want and makes u happy is perfect. 

    I have a friend who’s a full make up perfect hair kind of person and that is her reality and that makes her happy she does it for herself not for her husband so it’s perfect. 

    Whatever works for you I said and comfy in the house is 100% me!!

    Post # 20
    5077 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I think that if your husband doesn’t find you beautiful when you’re not wearing makeup and fancy clothes, then your husband doesn’t find you beautiful, period.

    Sure, take care of yourself, have good hygeine and be healthy, but that shouldn’t have anything to do with staying beautiful for your partner. Your looks are going to fade regardless.

    Post # 21
    10282 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I’m trying to lose 75 lbs right now but it’s not so I can look hot for my husband. It’s so I can be healthy and so that when we start TTC next year I don’t have to worry about my weight being an issue. I gained 50 of the 75 lbs I want to lose while we were together. My husband has always told me how beautiful I am at any weight I’m at. Now that I am losing the weight (20 lbs down, yay!) I can’t even express how much it means to know that I don’t have to do this for him to still find me attractive and that this incredibly difficult journey is about me reaching my goals for myself and he’s just my awesome support system. 

    I’m also in general pretty laid back about my appearance. I rarely wear make-up, I’m not great at doing anything special with my hair, and when I’m at home I prefer to be in comfy clothes so I usually change pretty quickly after getting home from work. We still have a great sex life and my husband still tells me I’m beautiful.

    Of course it’s great to put that extra effort in sometimes, but if you have to do that all the time for your husband to find you attractive then there’s a big problem in your relationship.

    Post # 25
    171 posts
    Blushing bee

    Why should a man be entitled to you looking good for him? I would vow to treat my spouse with compassion, love, and respect, but defintiely not to look good for him.  I’m not a pretty object. Besides, because he loves me, I am attractive to my SO, as he is to me.

    I’m not saying it’s wrong to try to look attractive when you feel like it and hope that your partner appreciates it, but I think it’s very devaluing to make it such a focal of the relationship as if you owe someone your beauty

    Post # 26
    7423 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Lol, no. I work from home, so the vast majority of my time is spent in sweats with no makeup. Fiance sees me like that every day. I do love getting glammed up on occasion when we go out or something…the wow factor is just that much bigger!

    Post # 28
    3102 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

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    goldieeex3 :  Vows to always look good? No, marriage is for bettter or worse. I do think BOTH in the relationship should try to maintain their health and attractiveness if possible. 

    Post # 29
    1930 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    What do you mean by “look good,” lol?

    Do you mean always having nails, hair and makeup done or staying fit and healthy and reasonably pulled together most of the time, but making sure you bring your A game on special occassions?

    I’m straight up a superifcial person. I believe in living a healthy and beautiful lifestyle. It takes effort and it takes work. I expect the same for my husband and I WILL say something if he’s worn sweatpants 3 days in a row. 

    However, my husband knows I’m ugly AF Monday-Friday, lol. I work in a kitchen so wearing makeup is pointless not to mention unhygenic. I also play soccer 3x/week so it’d be pointless to wear makeup. I do, however, make sure Im shaved, hair straight, eyebrows and nails done at all times. I also make an effort to wear booty shorts and tank tops around the house. Granny panties and pajamas are reserved for period week only. 

    Similar story goes for him: He works construction and also plays 3x/week so during the week he’s not shaven or dressed to impress. O the weekends, however, he is.

    Special occassions we both bring out the big guns. For me it’s hair extensions and contouring. For him it’s a hair cut and facial shave.

    Post # 30
    3085 posts
    Sugar bee

    One of my sister’s coworkers actually has it written into her prenup with her (extremely wealthy, like 1%) husband, that she’ll look good, workout regularly, and not exceed a certain weight/size.  Guess the guy wanted to legally ensure his trophy wife remained a trophy.  

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