(Closed) Vows…

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh gosh.  Overachiever, that guy! 😛  J/k, j/k.  I would start by brainstorming your feelings!  What kind of person he makes you, how he makes you feel, what you want to promise him, etc.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Look at some examples online. Maybe ask him what the tone of his are – serious, romantic, funny, etc, so yours can match.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m also in the same situation as you are. My Fiance and I are still debating whether we want to write our vows just because we don’t know where to begin. I’m interested to hear other people’s responses. Come on people, help some brides out!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

When I wrote mine I just started writing. I started with why I love him and how he makes me feel. Then did a lot of editing!  It helped me to read some other peoples vows (here on weddding bee and via google) to get an idea of how long my vows should be.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

The way I tell couples to write vows is a little long winded…

  • First think of 3 things you like about your Fiance and write it down

  • Now list 3 things you Love about them.

  • Then elaborate on all 6 things.

  • Relax and talk about these things with your closest friend, think of stories

This gets your mind working on how wonderful, sweet and terrific your Fiance is to you. Then it usually becomes easy to think of something to write. Just don’t worry or stress. This is love we are talking about so feel the love and enjoy it.

 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My Fiance has already started as well…and the wedding is 364 days away!  I am a lot better with words then he is so it will come easier to me I’m sure.  The biggest thing for me is the fact he showed me what it was truely supposed to be like….how love was supposed to feel.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@faeriegirl05:  AHH!!! Date twin! 🙂 Can’t believe it’s less than a year. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We wrote ours together.  We each read two paragraphs during the ceremony.  The first was individual (i.e., his was about his feelings for me, and vice versa).  The second paragraph was more vow-like, and we both read the same thing.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have an add’l question.  Do we memorize them?  I feel like it would be awkward to pull out a piece of paper but I also would hate for it to sound too rehearsed, or skip a section due to nerves.  My fiance pretty much winged his best man speech so I’m pretty sure he won’t be carrying paper….but he’s also an amazing and gifted romantic heart string tugging writer.  The damn how off!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ElbieKay:  That’s a good idea. I’m going to suggest that to Fiance tonight. He decided we’d do our own vows (I have close to stage fright, so I’d rather do the standard vow for that, though romantically I’d like to do our own).

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

We are writing ours separate but we have agreed on a format:

-Beginning (each to talk for 1.5 minutes about how we met or the first 3 dates we went on)

-Qualities (each to discuss 3 qualities we love about the other person)

-Change (each to discuss 3 ways how the other person has changed us/our lives)

-Vows, we are agreeing on 5 mutual vows and 2 unique vows each.

-I do exchange

 

**also, something else we are doing differently is reading back & forth.

**We are having an officiant free ceremony so we are a bit different:)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@rosegirl2325:  I really like the idea of agreeing to formula. My Fiance has been really concerned about our vows not sounding cohesive.

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