(Closed) VOWS… any bees who wrote their own vows?!

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did you write your own vows?
    no way : (6 votes)
    16 %
    absolutely : (29 votes)
    78 %
    I wanted to but my SO didn't or SO wanted too but you didnt! : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We wrote our own vows.  Darling Husband was the one that wanted to do it.  I had come up with some that were OK, but then he decided he wanted to read me his at our rehearsal dinner.  Well, he did and they were AMAZING!  I had to scratch mine and start over.  I ended up writing them the morning of our wedding on our hotel’s deck.  I’m really glad we did.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We wrote “words of love” to each other about why we’re choosing to marry the other person.  And then we said the “traditional” vows afterwards.  It was the most special part of the ceremony.  not a dry eye in the audience.  

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    Yep, I wrote my vows. I wrote them an hour and a half before my ceremony, right before I got in my dress. There’s a picture of me writing and the clock on the wall to prove it. Ha! I had had seven years to write them, but it wasn’t until it was all staring me in the face that I did. My bridesmaids were seriously worried I wouldn’t get them done, but I did.

    The best part? His were written a year in advance.

    ETA: We also wrote the whole darn ceremony.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @gpsp2B:  We are! We are going to be doing a “Unity Cross”, and I’m thinking we will do the self-written vows, followed by communion and the unity cross assembly, and the exchange of rings/traditional vows after that 🙂

    Post # 8
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    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I had to write the vows for the officiant for my first wedding because he was a friend who happened to be a notary.  I plan to write them again this time, only shorter, sweeter and with the help of my FH.

    Post # 9
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    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We are writting our own vows. 

    I am nervous about it tho! The main reason is just because I hate speaking in public, but I’ll have to do that regardless right? The second reason is because I really dislike vows that aren’t actual vows. (not meaning to offend anyone, but my personal opinion). What I mean is I dislike vows that just talk about how much you love the person, blah blah blah. Those aren’t vows. 

    So I’m really trying my best to write VOWS but the other issue is that I’m not sure if my Fiance is putting any humour into his or not, so I have two versions right now. One with some humour, one  without. My brother is going to proof read both of our vows and let us know if they “go” together, so that will make me feel better. I don’t want mine to be all serious and romantic, and his to be all funny and sweet or vice versa. I would like it if they had the same feel.

    Post # 10
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    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we did the same as meowkers – we wrote some words of love to say before reciting traditional vows. we’re keeping them a secret from eachother and so far all Fiance has said is ‘I think you’ll be surprised by what I wrote’. I can’t wait to hear them!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @beachbride1216:  we are doing the unity cross too 🙂 I think we are going to stick with traditional vows though, FH isn’t much of a public speaker. It kind of bums me out bc I would love to write my own! I do like the idea of each of saying something, assembling the cross, and then having the traditional vows. Maybe I’ll talk him into it!

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We wrote our own vows…Darling Husband thinks it was the most stressful part of the entire day, he was more worried about that than anything else (he isn’t a “words” guy…his proposal was just “I love you, will you marry me”). So I kinda meanly forced it upon him, lol. His were short, but still so sweet and I’m so happy he did it (I think he still would rather he didn’t). Mine were like 3 times as long, lol. I also wrote the entire ceremony myself…

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We’re writing ours. Only because Fiance wants to. I deny him so much other things wedding related, I figured I should let him have something that means a lot to him. I’m dreading it though. I’m not good with words, feelings or writing. I’m screwed.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband vowed to always put 4 ice cubes in my drinks, since that’s what I love, and to not slurp his soup, haha. The other “important” stuff was in there, too, but I love the little things that couple include in custom vows!

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