Post # 1
I would much rather exchange vows without repeating. I would like to say my vows on my own. Is this ok or do you have to repeat after the officiant?
I’m kind of confused on how everything works. I was thinking we could each have our own spoken vows and then have the officiant say the “Do you take [groom/bride] to be your lawfully wedded [wife/husband]?” and we can say our “I do”s. Is this an option or do we have to do the repeating thing?
Also, with exchange of rings. I hate the repeating thing. Can we just have the officiant say something and then we exchange rings without speaking?
Post # 2
What kind of wedding are you having? Who is your officant? Some churches/religious weddings will ask for you to do things a certain way. If you are having a non-religious wedding where you are designing your own, you can do what ever you want.
Post # 3
I also intend to take out the whole “repeat after me” stuff. But, we aren’t getting married in a church, so we have 100% flexibility.
Post # 4
@misswhowedding I am at the early stages, I haven’t started actively planning yet, so I don’t have an officiant yet, and I’m planning on a non-religious wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Yup. I agree. If it’s a church, court or justice of the peace, I think you have to follow thiers. If it’s non religious officiant, I think you can do what you want, just ask them.
We just went over our ceremony with our officiant and we are having 3 types, first are mad lib vows given in the programs, we are going to pull out a couple completed ones each, to read out loud for fun. Then we have our own vows to say to each other and ending with the “Official” statements we say our I do’s to at the end by the officiant.
Post # 6
laschai: At this point, then, look for an officient and location that will allow you to do what you want. Your questions on how you prefer to do things for your wedding can and should be apart of your interviews with the oficient you pick for your wedding.
Post # 7
You can do whatever you want!
Post # 8
We had a secular wedding and wrote our vows. Our officiant had them printed, and gave us our copy to read when the time was right. It worked for us 🙂
Post # 9
We had a christian wedding, but weren’t married inside a church. We wanted a pastor from a local church to officiate – I wrote our entire ceremony and he was more than happy to comply. We read our vows to each other and ony repeated after the pastor when we exchanged rings. I’m sure you’d be able to find an officiate who is willing to work with you.