- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I posted this on Reddit and it was suggested I try here as well.
Me and my gentleman are getting married in 2014. We just sat down and had a big long planning session together earlier today. Got most things planned out, but started talking about one thing and just hit a wall.
So, the plan is to have a small, close friends and family wedding ceremony in Sweden, where my dad owns a massive house. Then we’ll come home to Britain, sign the paperwork at the registrars and have a reception at a hall for his huge family and other friends.
We already asked our closest friend to “marry” us in Sweden, but have just realised that since we’re not ACTUALLY getting married there, it doesn’t make much sense to have the traditional vows. Neither of us are religious, so we don’t feel like we want to do religious vows, and neither of us like the idea of writing personal vows and mushing all over each other. Additionally, everyone saying something nice about us seems a bit up ourselves and a bit like we’re forcing people to take part.
We do like the idea of having a ceremony of some description, but we’re struggling to think how things will actually work. With all that in mind, we’re a bit clueless as to what should actually happen during this ceremony and what should be said, particularly what exactly we should ask our friend to say.
Any suggestions would be really appreciated, or experiences of weddings you’ve been to that are somewhat similar to our situation. Sorry if I’ve explained badly, if you have any direct questions, let me know.