(Closed) Vows >> speak from the heart or tone it down?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Welcome to Wedding Bee! This site has been my saving grace for the last week. I loved hearing your story and can relate as a fellow migraine sufferer. I get them several times a week. I think you could tell him in your vows how much he means to you without mentioning the migraines specifically. He will know what you’re referring to if you word things a certain way. Good luck!

Post # 4
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Agree with PP. As long as you talk about the love and support, and not the ex/the migraines specifically, you should be fine!

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@36goldfish:  my wedding is not until May 25th. My problem is that I refused to take preventive medicine on a daily basis because I’m not a good pill taker, I forget to take them daily. So, I have some medicines prescribed that I can take when I feel one coming on. I have also identified some triggers that make them worse (sugar substitutes are a NO GO for me!) I’m just praying that I dont have one on my wedding day. When I have one, all I want is a bed in a cold, dark, quiet room 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@36goldfish:  Welcome to the Bee!  I am also a migraine sufferer (though mine aren’t nearly as frequent as what you’ve described here), so I at least sort of understand.

I agree with previous posters: leave out any mention of ex-boyfriends and only mention your condition if you’re comfortable doing so.  I think you can speak from the heart without giving out all of the details of your personal life/health issues.

It sounds like you’ve found a wonderful man, though, and I have no doubt you’ll find a great way to express your love for him (and highlight all of his great qualities)!  Smile

Post # 11
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12249 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s fine! It’s about how your Fiance loves you for good and very, very bad! Just leave out the ex stuff!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@36goldfish:  best of luck to you too! You are getting married exactly one month after me so it will be easy for me to remember to say a prayer for you that day-no migraines! And that goes for your honeymoon too ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@36goldfish:  I think its best to keep the day as positive as possible. So agreeing with PPs, just use specific words to describe your appreciation of his support through tough times. You could go with the traditional “in sickness and in health” or something vague along those lines, that he will know what you’re saying without actually saying it. I suffer from migraines as well, several a month so not to the same extent as you. I hope that you can find the right treatment to get them under control! It takes a patient man to deal with migraines, I am so grateful that my Fiance is compassionate and understanding when I have mine. In fact, (side story) I got a migraine on our way to our Valentine’s Day dinner, and ended up spending most of dinner throwing up in the bathroom! I had never vomited due to a migraine, so I’m slightly worried that they’re getting worse or something. 

Anyway, good luck with the vows. I’m sure you’ll find just the right thing to say to the man who knows just the right thing to do to help you deal with your migraines. ๐Ÿ™‚

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