Post # 1
Are most of you having your fiancée say a vowel to your kids from your 1st marriage? My daughter is 6, her biological father has been out of her life since she was 3 months. My current fiancée has already taken on the father role in her life (she calls him dad) and he has been living with us for two years, she doesn’t remember a time whedoes wasn’t in our life’s. I would really love your alls input on whether or not having him do a vowel to her would make her question if he was her dad or not? I like the idea of him making a commitment to her as well as me but I am it’s going to bring up a lot of questions.
Post # 3
I think its a good idea. Because hes becoming part of her life as well. I’ve seen it done at other weddings where they just say something quick, but it makes the kids feel included too. And thats awesome that hes taken on the father role.
Post # 4
Yes, my Fiance will be doing vows to my daughters. My situation is similar to yours and I relaize it’s a day to celebrate Fiance and myself but part of me is my girls and he knows that and fully accepts that and loves them as his own so I think having vows is a wonderful idea. I don’t know them for certain yet but I do know we will be doing a family unity candle. I found one that we can put all our names on and it has a little thing about becoming one family. Then instead of 2 candles we’ll have 4. We’ll light ours and then we’ll light the girls and we’ll light the unity candle together. 🙂
Post # 5
I would talk to him about it and see how he feels. We included all of our children in the wedding. I would also have a talk with her about what she wishes to call him in the future and take it from there.
Post # 6
@pinkprincess0616: You do mean “vows” right?