(Closed) Vows…what are yours or what are your favorite vows you’ve heard…seen written

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I want tradition.  THE vows.  Nothing changed or watered down.  I want the vows to be the same ones my grandparents said 70 years ago and my parents said almost 44 years ago when they married.  

And I don’t want a long sermon either.  it will be significant, eloquent, heart-felt, and traditional.  And all in 20 minutes or less. 

Post # 4
1356 posts
Bumble bee

My fiance offiated a wedding where he said the part, "to have and to hold", and instead of repeating it, the couple said it in their own words. I think the bride said to that one, "To spoon with you on the couch." 🙂 It was really cute!

Post # 5
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I like the Hindu seven steps!  It sounds really meaningful, and if you can find a way to tailor those steps into your vows, it would be lovely.

The most memorable vows (in fact, the only vows I can remember) I have ever heard?  My friend and her husband wrote down ten promises to each other on paper.  Each person sealed his or her promises in an envelope and gave it to the other person.  During the ceremony, the bride read out the groom’s promises, and vice versa.  Some of them were serious, and some were funny.  I don’t remember the actual promises they made, but I remember it being incredibly touching and sweet.  

Post # 8
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Thanks, D.Marie – I never thought of doing this at the reception or during the honeymoon.  That’s a great idea!  What I loved about it was the reaction of the bride and groom as they read out the other person’s promises.

Post # 10
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I love the ideas here! I am (cough) supposed to be writing my own vows as we speak and this was the perfect starting point!

Post # 12
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We "wrote" our own (read mixed a bunch of ones we found online plus little bits of us):


<span class=”il”>Vows:
I choose you, Michelle/Adam to be no other than yourself; loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I will respect you as an individual, partner, and equal.  I promise to laugh with you when times are good, and endure with you when they are bad. I will always adore, honor, and encourage you.  You are my best friend and I will love you always.

Ring Exchange:
Today I join my life to yours as your friend, your lover, and your confidant. Let me be the shoulder you lean on, the rock on which you rest, the companion of your life. With you I will walk my path from this day forward. With this ring, I thee wed.

Post # 14
34 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

Here are the vows my new husband and I used. We borrowed a few different lines from different vows we’d seen online and combined them all together:

I GROOM take you BRIDE /
for your warm heart and strength/
through love, laughter, and tears/
I promise to take you as you are/ and to accept whom you become./
I will honor our differences/
and make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own./
I promise to work for our relationship/
and to stand by your side as we face challenges together.

I promise to love, honor, and encourage you/
all the days of my life./
I take you as my wife.

Post # 15
2143 posts
Buzzing bee

these are the vows my husband and I exchanged. I also took snippets from other ones I found and just kind of changed things around

I "husband", take you "wife" to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, love you unconditionally and support you through good times and bad I will stand faithfully by your side during times of abundance, and times of need. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.


from our ring exchange

""Wife", With this ring, I give you a symbol of my promise that from this day forward, I will devote my love to you. You shall not walk alone for I shall always be beside you. May my heart be your shelter And my arms be your home. I feel so honored to call you my wife. I feel so pleased to call you mine." 


Post # 16
4 posts

mdarrah — I recognize part of your vows from Andrew Sullivan’s blog post about his own!  I love the message of taking your partner for who they are and trusting in who they will become in the future, since we all change.  

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