(Closed) Wait.. that's an elopement?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I’ve noticed this too – the meaning of the word “elope” is becoming diluted. It’s starting to mean “wedding with few or no guests,” quite apart from whether or not secrecy and running away are involved.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think if its like ok next week whoever whats to come where getting married Id consider that an elopment or if you keep it secret and plan for a little down the road. I think elopment is an excitting idea compared to small and simple which is why people prefer wording it this way.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

According to Merriam-Webster (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/elopement)

 

elope

eloped | elop-ing

Definition of ELOPE

intransitive verb

1  : to slip away: ESCAPE <might have mistaken him for … some scarecrow eloped from a cornfield — Washington Irving>

2  a :  to run away from one’s husband with a lover

   b : to run away secretly with the intention of getting married usually without parental consent

— elope-ment noun

— elop-er noun

Post # 6
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Helper bee

One of my best friends once said, “I’m eloping tomorrow,” which cracked me up. She meant that she, her FH, and her parents were planning to go to the courthouse for them to get married, which is hardly running away in secret, since they told everyone from the moment they started planning it… I would classify that as a courthouse wedding, not an elopement. I had to give her a hard time, because we were English majors and she regularly made fun of me for mispronouncing words 🙂

I think the word “elope” sounds so romantic and elegant that people prefer to use it over a term like “courthouse wedding,” so I think that’s why the term is being applied to non-secret weddings these days. The problem I have is that “elopement” connotes secrecy and going against your family’s wishes or behind their backs, so when people say they eloped, I get a whole different idea than a sweet, simple family affair. We really need a more elegant term for a small, non-secretive wedding that your family actually approves of…

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah I’ve had the same thought.  I can see why people would prefer the term elope over “small wedding at the courthouse” or whatever the situation might be though. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@Woodstock:  Trust me, she didn’t want to have to elope. It was the last thing she wanted to do but sometimes families suck.

I feel for her, because I am in the same situation. Fiance and I have gone back and forth with the idea of eloping, and while I love that idea, there are some people on his and my side that I don’t want to hurt. Some, I could care less if they get upset. Bleh.

 

I have often referred to the idea of ‘eloping’ with a few close family members and friends, because if we did that, we would literally tell them minutes before we left and say, “Hey, we’re getting married…like, right now. You coming or not?”. So I still consider it ‘eloping.’

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@StefLovesJamie:   That does sound like a crappy situation.  Hope you find a way to make it work!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would have to agree with you. I believe your definition of Elopement is correct. What everyone else is calling it, That is a destination wedding!

This is the definition from wikipedia…

To elope, most literally, merely means to run away and to not come back to the point of origination.[1] More specifically, elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in sudden and secretive fashion, usually involving hurried flight away from one’s place of residence together with one’s beloved with the intention of getting married.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@FutureMrs.Drymalla:  “What everyone else is calling it, That is a destination wedding!”

Only if you’re going to a destination… My BFF who faux-eloped just went to her hometown courthouse, so it wasn’t very special or vacation-y 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

after just reading the word “elope” so many times, it’s starting to not sound like a word at all..

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I get irritated by this too! I am eloping this week. Just the two of us, the Justice of the Peace and the photographer. We will tell family and friends afterwards.

When people go to the courthouse with their parents and a couple of friends, it’s an “intimate wedding” but NOT and elopement!

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Elopement to me is how you feel.  FI and I were going to elope at one point because of particular reasons.  Of course everyone was upset because they wouldn’t be a part of our big day. Destination wedding is with a few family members and/or friends.

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