Post # 31
My older sister had been married and TTC for the last 8 years. By this logic how much longer should I have waited for her to get pregnant? We started TTC when we were ready and now I’m pregnant. It was a little weird in the beginning but my sister is so excited to be an aunt now. Just be understanding if you get pregnant first, that it may sting a little for her.
Post # 32
Have a baby when you are ready. What if she is never able to conceive? You just wont have babies either??
Post # 33
teacherbee01: I definitely don’t think you should wait–it can take awhile for some people. However, if you do get preggers easily, maybe gently break it to your sis? My sister has two children and we are still trying to have our first (going on almost two years of trying). While I’m always happy to hear that she is preggo, it still stings. Good luck you you.
Post # 34
teacherbee01: have babies when you want to. There’s not a rule that says older siblings must do things first. For all you know your sister May never be able to have children.
Post # 35
teacherbee01: Girl, live your life.
I guess it’s nice that you are trying to be considerate of her feelings, but no one else around you is going to be putting THEIR lives on hold for anything with you. I am going to struggle with infertility–I already know that. It would boggle my mind if any of my sisters, cousins, or friends put off having their own children just to save my feelings. Would it be hard for her? Probably a little, but I bet she’d be just as excited for you.
Post # 36
I honestly didn’t read the other comments, but I wanted to give my thoughts since we’ve been TTC for a year and a half. I wouldn’t hold off TTC, but I would talk to her about it. Tell her you think you guys might start trying soon, and definitely emphasize that she’s in your thoughts, and you know it might be hard for her. I think that’s better than you secretly tryiing and then one day surprising her with the news that you’re pregnant. She can prepare herself mentally for that day. Best of luck!
Post # 37
teacherbee01: I am in a very similar situation, except I just found out I am pregnant. And to make it *worse* it was a surprise, so we weren’t even trying. I am struggling to find a way to tell her, as I know she will be excited for us, but it will also likely sting for her to hear. We are still early, but I would like to tell her within the next few weeks, and would love to hear of a way for us to “break it to her gently”… because we still are unsure of how to go about doing that.
So I wouldn’t say wait for her. TTC when YOU are ready, but I can understand where you are coming from in terms of feeling for her, and trying to be happy for yourself (if you do get pregnant right away)