Post # 1
Hey, I just wanted to get everyones thoughts on this topic. I really want to have kids, but I don’t want to right away. Maybe wait a year and just get used to one another first. Then there are days where I think Id wanna have kids right away. Im also the Maid/Matron of Honor in my friends wedding in 2012 and I don’t want to be preggers in her Bridal Party. Thoughts?
Post # 3
Darling Husband and I discussed waiting a year or so after we were married, then as our wedding date got closer he became super baby-crazy. I went off bc about a month after we were married.
Post # 4
Everyone is different. For us, we haven’t been trying NOT to get pregnant for a while now, so we’ll start trying immediately after.
But, we’re both over 30 and have been more than ready for some time.
Good luck finding what’s best for you both!
Post # 5
@thewheelsonthebus: I am ready, but then I also want to make sure that it doesnt disrupt my friends wedding because Im the Maid/Matron of Honor and I want to be able to help her 100%. Its tricky. Maybe best to start trying when were very close to her wedding so it doesnt disrupt anything.
Post # 6
We’re waiting a year. We’ve been together for a while, so it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world to get pregnant right away, but once you have kids you have them forever— there’s no going back. So why rush! (Plus, my MOHs will prob be getting married in 2012 and I want to be there for them.)
Post # 7
I think age has a lot to do with it too. When I had my first child at 22, I gave up a lot.
Post # 8
My Fiance is 31 and I’m 25. All of his closest friends are newly married to women in their early 30s so they are all trying right away. We on the other hand will probably wait about five years. I’m going to be going (hopefully if I get in) to business school next year so I don’t want kids during school and I’d like to be settled in my job before we start trying, but I don’t want to wait so long that we can’t get pregnant (my mom was 32 when she had me and it took my parents two years to conceive).
Post # 9
If you have the time I would wait. I will be 35 when I get married so we will start right away but I have LOVED having the past few years to travel and do what we want, when we want.
Post # 10
I agree with a PP, it depends on what you two decide. You may just do a ‘pull and pray’ for a few years, or get down and dirty and really get to work! My friends did a ‘pull and pray’ (she went off of BC, and her hubby didn’t wear condoms) and they got pregnant in 6 months. They didn’t really even try.
Fiance and I decided to start trying once we buy a house and he has a good job. (at this point, the two go hand in hand) The goal is to start trying a year after we get married. We’ll see though! I know plans change and we’re young and flexible.
Post # 11
I’m 33 so we’re starting right away due to the age factor, but I do wish I were younger so we could have some time to ourselves/money saving time. We just want the option of being able to have a second one down the line.