(Closed) Wait to TTC for SIL?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why should you have to wait for her? No one else should decide when you have kids. That should only be up to you and hubby. Your ready now and they had lots of time to have their time to conceive. Seems like if they are doing it right after your wedding maybe they are feeling the competition of being the first. Absolutely do it when YOU’RE ready. 

Post # 4
747 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m a little confused. this doesn’t seem like something that should be a group decision. if the two of you are ready, great! if SIL is ready, great! it’s not a competition. there’s no one that can know if now is the right time for you better than you and DH. 

personally, our families will not be involved in deciding when we TTC. we’ll let them know when we have something to tell. i am not interested in other people’s thoughts on it. our family, our decision. to each their own.

Post # 5
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

When you and your DH start TTC should be between you two only, not your families. They were the ones who decided to wait a few years to TTC, that has nothing to do with your timeline. 

Start when you two feel ready to, not when your families feel you should!

Post # 7
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think you should have to wait for anyone. If you and your husband are ready to conceive then go for it. It shouldn’t matter who is “first” when it comes to weddings, babies or anything else. 

Post # 8
47439 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my gosh! You are thinking of taking consideration way too far.

Have your children when you want to have them.

Post # 11
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally expected this to be one of those “lets be pregnant at the same time!” things. 🙁 You and your husband should not have to worry about all that other drama. I say TTC when YOU want, the end result is the same so his family will get over it. Good luck!

Post # 12
15197 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way!!  You should not have to wait for her to concieve first just cause shes older and married longer!   If you’re ready, go for it!  I can’t believe that his parents would think that… Thats crazzzy!!!

Post # 14
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree that when you start TTC should be your choice.  However, if you are concerned about it, go straight to the souce and talk to your SIL about your concerns, and hear/weigh HER opinion on the matter.  You know what they say about opinions, and your in-laws are allowed to express theirs, but ultimately you two get the final say.

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