Post # 1
So we’re getting married in a little over 4 months and will start TTC immediately after the wedding. With all the stress of the planning my normal 28 cycle moved to about 25-27 days. I was on the pill for about 12 yrs and stopped in April and had normal cycles. I know it’s nothing to worry about just yet but it’s making me anxious and I’m thinking about just starting to TTC when January hits hoping we won’t have issues.
We’ll both be 31 at the wedding, our careers are in place (although I’ll be a Stay-At-Home Mom for a bit) and we’re ready. Our honeymoon in May will be a bit of an adventure honeymoon and then I was hoping to go to Africa in 2015, pending of course if I’m with baby. If I have a honeymoon baby I won’t be able to go to Africa (to help Sis in law with her new adopted daughter), which isn’t a huge deal, although it’s a once in a lifetime trip (FMIL offered to pay).
Do you think we should start TTC in January/February which would make me almost 2-3 months at the wedding or wait until the honeymoon in May?
Thanks for your input 🙂
Post # 3
Here is my thoughts– you can get pregnant on the first go. If you do, you could be sick during your wedding and your honeymoon. You could be prohibited from doing things and would just not enjoy it as much. Or it could be wonderful, you don’t know.
You have plenty of time, so I would say wait until your honeymoon. 5 months is nothing in terms of a lifetime and it will allow you to enjoy your honeymoon and the wedding (and have a glass of champagne to celebrate!). Once you are back, enjoy the babymaking process!
Post # 4
@Pollywog: Thank you. You’re right, I’ll probably be a sick gross bride LOL I just get anxious about not being able to conceive before 35. Anxiety and TTC? who knew?! hehe
Post # 5
@PinkPanda: agree with the PP. you dont know how your body is going to respond and you dont want to risk being miserable at the wedding, just my personal opinion. And if you are already off BCP and your cycles seem pretty regular, barring any extenuatin circumstance, you should be fine and conceive relatively soon.
good luck, hoping for your BFP !!
Post # 6
Exactly what was already said. I would definitely wait.
Post # 7
Is the reason you’re thinking of TTC early because the length of your cycle changed? I just want to let you know that’s a toooottalllly normal thing. If anything, you should wait until after the wedding to TTC if you’re having any stress or anxiety, since the extra cortisol in your system could actually affect the fetus.
If you haven’t read it already, “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” is the bible on knowing your cycle and what it all means: http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Fertility-Anniversary-Edition/dp/0060881909/ref=sr_1_1
Post # 8
@PinkPanda: I’m old fashioned so I would at least wait until after the wedding. Unless you have any reason to suspect that you would have trouble conceiving (i.e. you have PCOS or endometriosis, etc.) I would not worry about that. 31 is NOT old, and really should not be a factor in ease of conception. If you cannot go on your honeymoon while pregnant due to whatever activities you planned, I would personally hold off until after. If you guys are just so so excited to do it and that is your priority above every other plan, then heck, go for it!
Post # 9
Jumping the gun up to now probably won’t make a difference in your adventures in TTC. And your cycle changing doesn’t mean you have anything to worry about either! Just try to relax, and go with the plan! You could get pg right away, it could take a few months, it doesn’t matter if you start now or in may.
Post # 10
I’d wait personally but I was pretty miserable in my first trimester – nausea, exhaustion, acne, bloating, you name it. You could feel great if you’re pregnant on your wedding day, or you could feel like total crap. You just won’t know so I’d never plan to get pregnant before hand. Waiting a few months isn’t going to really make or break anything.
Post # 11
I would wait until after the wedding. I felt sick for the first five months of pregnancy and I would not have wanted to have my wedding during that time. It just would not have been a good experience. You just can’t predict what pregnancy will be like.
In terms of worrying about being in your 30’s and TTC, there is really no indication that 30’s = infertility. I’ve seen many people on this board get pregnant at your (and my) age.
Post # 12
I would wait until May. The first 10-12 weeks of my pregnancy (I know they are all different) was hell. I woke up feeling like I was hung over all.the.time (nauseated, couldn’t eat, starving, exhausted, couldn’t sleep, insanley thirsty, couldn’t keep down liquids..) I could not imagine trying to plan a wedding feeling like total ass all the time. I would also want to be able to enjoy my honeymoon without thinking about the peanut. What if you’re high risk? or on bed rest? Ugh that would blow.
Post # 13
@PinkPanda: My first trimester basically sucked! I wouldn’t want to be a bride/planning a wedding during my first tri. You can totally get pregnant on your first try, I did. Maybe if you tried the month before your wedding then you’d be getting a BFP at our around your wedding day but not really having any of the symptoms yet. Just a thought…
Post # 14
All good points. Thank you ladies!! I’m sure these four months will fly by.
Post # 15
Hmm… I suppose if you are getting anxious with age, you can start 1 mth before the wedding. That 1 mth won’t make you terribly sick as opposed to being 5 mths (if you were gonna get preggo in Jan). I am 32 and just TTCing now. I waited until now because I didn’t want to take on the responsibility of a baby right after a wedding. I wanted to enjoy our ‘we’ time and get to know each other really well. As much as we thought we knew each other even after staying over at each others’ places, turns out living together under one roof is a whole different ball game.
Post # 16
@Sasha2011: one month before might not be too bad. Hope you get your BFP soon!!