(Closed) Waiting 10, 11, 15 years to get married…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have been together since I was 16. When we get married this year, it will be on our 11th anniversary. We have always said that what is the rush? I have wanted to “do it properly” which to me means the full hotel reception and no budget. So we waited. If it has been working for a few years, why change it? It’s only a bit of paper after all! After 11 years, we are committed and nothing is going to change that.

Post # 4
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This is an interesting question. Well, I’m not engaged yet, but like the PP, we have been together since we were very young (we got together 2 days after my 14th birthday!). We’re now 22 and have been together for 8 years. SO has promised he will ask in the next 2 years, which means we will probably get engaged after about 9-10 years together, and married after 10-12 years together. We can’t get married just yet because we are both students and financially dependent on our parents still, and we want to have some time to save for a wedding. But we have been talking about getting married for years now. I am happy to wait, because I know it’s coming, and I know the timing will be right when it happens eventually.

So in answer to your question, the reason we are waiting is our age and lack of financal independence. But if we had been older, I personally don’t think I could have waited that long, because I would want that commitment.

Like the OP I’m interested to hear other people’s opinions on this though! 🙂

Post # 5
4369 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re not quite going to hit 10 years officially – our wedding is 3.5 months before our 10th dating anniversary, though, so I’ll chime in.

We started dating at 17 (high school) and then went off to different colleges – between being so young and then being in an LDR for over 6 years, it was never the right time for us.  Now, we’re both 26 (27 at wedding), done with school and living together – everything has finally lined up so we can get married.

Post # 6
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

We haven’t been together for a decade yet, but it’s 8 years.

We started dating freshman year of college.  Then he got his Master’s.  Then I got my Master’s.  Now I’m working on my doctoral degree. 

For us it was financial.  We needed to save for a wedding and a house.  And things are not cheap in this area.

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