Post # 1
Most couples I know wait somewhere around 2-4 years before being married but I have seen a few who have waited over a decade. If you are one or know one of those couples, what was the reason why? I just always figured if it’s been working for a few years why not just get married?
I feel like if I’d have to wait another seven years, I’d burst! Haha but that’s why I’m asking every woman couple is different.
Post # 3
We have been together since I was 16. When we get married this year, it will be on our 11th anniversary. We have always said that what is the rush? I have wanted to “do it properly” which to me means the full hotel reception and no budget. So we waited. If it has been working for a few years, why change it? It’s only a bit of paper after all! After 11 years, we are committed and nothing is going to change that.
Post # 4
This is an interesting question. Well, I’m not engaged yet, but like the PP, we have been together since we were very young (we got together 2 days after my 14th birthday!). We’re now 22 and have been together for 8 years. SO has promised he will ask in the next 2 years, which means we will probably get engaged after about 9-10 years together, and married after 10-12 years together. We can’t get married just yet because we are both students and financially dependent on our parents still, and we want to have some time to save for a wedding. But we have been talking about getting married for years now. I am happy to wait, because I know it’s coming, and I know the timing will be right when it happens eventually.
So in answer to your question, the reason we are waiting is our age and lack of financal independence. But if we had been older, I personally don’t think I could have waited that long, because I would want that commitment.
Like the OP I’m interested to hear other people’s opinions on this though! 🙂
Post # 5
We’re not quite going to hit 10 years officially – our wedding is 3.5 months before our 10th dating anniversary, though, so I’ll chime in.
We started dating at 17 (high school) and then went off to different colleges – between being so young and then being in an LDR for over 6 years, it was never the right time for us. Now, we’re both 26 (27 at wedding), done with school and living together – everything has finally lined up so we can get married.
Post # 6
We haven’t been together for a decade yet, but it’s 8 years.
We started dating freshman year of college. Then he got his Master’s. Then I got my Master’s. Now I’m working on my doctoral degree.
For us it was financial. We needed to save for a wedding and a house. And things are not cheap in this area.