Post # 1
My bf and I have been together for over 3 years and have lived together for over 2 years, and although we’ve discussed getting married ALOT, we are not engaged yet. We’ve had the talks, been asked a million times by others when it will happen, and have the support of our families, but it has not happened. He swears it will happen when the time is right, and I don’t want to be someone who pressures. I am doing my best to stick to that and not make the act of proposing a chore, but it is hard keeping it to oneself when it’s all you can think about at times. One recent positive step: He asked me what kind of rings we would get once we are married and specifically asked what kind of ring I would want. He is now informed of what I would like (even though it’s totally non-traditional) and he mentioned what he would like to wear as a wedding band (when that day would come). Since we haven’t talked about rings before, I offered to go shopping together, but he made a sad face and swore that it was important to him to do this on his own, as a surprise, and that he was up for the challenge. Now, that being said….I’m trying not to take it too literally and remind myself that my bf does things at a slow pace, so it may not happen for quite some time, but it’s so hard to not think about it – particularly with the holidays approaching! I’m also trying to prepare myself to not act disappointed when the holidays come and go and we are still bf and gf. Until I found this website, I didn’t think I would survive this horrible process of “waiting,” so “Here’s to all the amazing ladies out there with those amazing guys who do things on the longest timeline ever! 🙂
Post # 3
The good news is that you have a wonderful SO!! Try not to be too disapointed if the proposal doesn’t come this year. (I was hoping for a proposal by the end of the year, but I now realize that it is not likely to happern due to a financial setback a few months ago). At least he has asked about rings, ect…so even though it might take a little longer than you would like, at least you’re on the right track!!
Post # 4
@misskittykakes: Thanks for the positive thoughts! I agree it is a step in the right direction. I appreciate the romantic, surprise element, but being a control freak, I always worry that I need to have a hand in things. I need to have more faith in him and not worry about it. As mom always says, this is the one special thing that he will do for me that I will always remember, and I shouldn’t focus on trying to control it like everything else in my life 🙂 Best of luck to you as well!
Post # 5
I am in the same boat as you are. Until i found this website and read the posts on the waiting board, i thought for sure i was crazy. Turns out, it is perfectly normal to wonder and be anxious when he brings up the topic, makes comments about it happening soon, shows you rings, a family trip is planned, and the holidays are approaching…Ahhhh…that is enough to drive you crazy, especially when you are someone who likes to know what to expect. My SO and I have been together for 4 1/2 years and will have lived together for 2 years this weekend, while we are out of town with his family celebrating his parents anniversary. I love that the ladies on here share their stories and experiences too. 🙂 I just wish i would have found this site earlier. I have been playing the waiting game for quite a while now. Good luck with everything!!