(Closed) Waiting. . .

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your health and the health of your relationship are paramount, and if an impending engagement is fracturing you as a couple, then now is certainly not the time. It would be best to take a break from what appear to be frequent discussions of marriage until you two are on more solid footing. Your split sounds as if it was fairly recent, so take time to fully mend the relationship before moving forward.

Life is not a competition rewarding the person who most quickly accumulates milestones. At least it shouldn’t be. Yes, you want marriage and children, and yes it can be bothersome to watch others have a (seemingly) easier time of it. But really consider whether you and your partner are truly ready. From the volatility described in this post, I would have doubts.

When you ARE ready, don’t plan around others; it has nothing to do with them. Attempting to avoid every other couple’s engagement is damn near impossible, and unnecesary. “Self-righteous bridezillas” are not the cause of your stress. YOU are. The stress will end the moment you stop comparing.

You label your friends as less deserving of their good fortune, but marriage and parenthood are not meritocracies. Your worth is not defined by your marital status or the contents of your uterus. Remember that.


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