(Closed) waiting….

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I still look at it…there’s nothing wrong with looking in my opinion!

Post # 4
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Sometimes I get too upset and frustrated and swear off all things wedding. I usually slowly get back into the wedding world when our discussions (mostly initiated by him) about it pick up. I wish I had a better answer, but really if I am feeling upset about it I avoid the bee, just makes it worse.

Post # 5
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am not in waiting, but was. I was with my Fiance for at the time, going on 4 years, with 2 kids!!! It was very hard, and unless you KNOW it is going to happen, looking can hurt. I was POing my Fiance sometimes because I would talk wedding, and he wanted the tradional surprise (we have kids though, so I decided that was out the window..lol) also it can hurt you if he is taking too long, and no signs of picking up speed. Your all excited, and frustrated, and when you finally get the ring, and set the date, your burnt out.

  I say casually looking is okay, but I would wait to get swatches, and worrying about too many details until you have it set in stone

Post # 6
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t obsess myself in the stuff. I look at rings in passing, rarely I look at dress but until he proposes, I can’t get any more ideas, so I don’t want to look. That helps me from becoming depress while I am still waiting. You need to remove yourself and focus on other things.

Post # 7
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115 posts
Blushing bee

Well I didn’t pick out a date and the only thing I’ve looked at are rings. I agree, once you look you’re hooked so that’s why I try not to look! Whenever I start to feel down I just let my SO know and then I think about why I am waiting and it all becomes worth it. 🙂

Post # 8
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it is ok to look especially if you know for sure that you will be marrying your SO.  I just wouldn’t pay for anything yet.  Planning ahead can’t hurt.  Just don’t get you heart set on too many things because you will need to get your SOs opinion too when the time comes.  I think looking at the small things first would be a good start.

Post # 9
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s okay, as long as you know that It’s going to happen shortly. I do it pretty often, just to get ideas on what I want. Soometimes, I actually throw ideas out to my SO, like no cake, just pies. For me, it’s a pretty good sign when he knows that I actively do, and it doesn’t phase him at all, because he wants it too.

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