Post # 1
So my question is to you ladies in waiting..what do you do to help not get discouraged or frustrated that you have picked out the date and stuff, but not engaged?? A lot of you guys have been with your love for many years, but I have only been with my love for a year….we dated for a month then broke up…then 2 months later dated again….and we know that we know that we want to get married and spend the rest of our lives together. It is like when I do start lookin at stuff, i just get discouraged and feel like I should not be looking at this stuff untill im engaged….ya know>>> HELP
Post # 3
I still look at it…there’s nothing wrong with looking in my opinion!
Post # 4
Sometimes I get too upset and frustrated and swear off all things wedding. I usually slowly get back into the wedding world when our discussions (mostly initiated by him) about it pick up. I wish I had a better answer, but really if I am feeling upset about it I avoid the bee, just makes it worse.
Post # 5
I am not in waiting, but was. I was with my Fiance for at the time, going on 4 years, with 2 kids!!! It was very hard, and unless you KNOW it is going to happen, looking can hurt. I was POing my Fiance sometimes because I would talk wedding, and he wanted the tradional surprise (we have kids though, so I decided that was out the window..lol) also it can hurt you if he is taking too long, and no signs of picking up speed. Your all excited, and frustrated, and when you finally get the ring, and set the date, your burnt out.
I say casually looking is okay, but I would wait to get swatches, and worrying about too many details until you have it set in stone
Post # 6
I didn’t obsess myself in the stuff. I look at rings in passing, rarely I look at dress but until he proposes, I can’t get any more ideas, so I don’t want to look. That helps me from becoming depress while I am still waiting. You need to remove yourself and focus on other things.
Post # 7
Well I didn’t pick out a date and the only thing I’ve looked at are rings. I agree, once you look you’re hooked so that’s why I try not to look! Whenever I start to feel down I just let my SO know and then I think about why I am waiting and it all becomes worth it. 🙂
Post # 8
I think it is ok to look especially if you know for sure that you will be marrying your SO. I just wouldn’t pay for anything yet. Planning ahead can’t hurt. Just don’t get you heart set on too many things because you will need to get your SOs opinion too when the time comes. I think looking at the small things first would be a good start.
Post # 9
I think it’s okay, as long as you know that It’s going to happen shortly. I do it pretty often, just to get ideas on what I want. Soometimes, I actually throw ideas out to my SO, like no cake, just pies. For me, it’s a pretty good sign when he knows that I actively do, and it doesn’t phase him at all, because he wants it too.