Post # 1
After my SO told me that his timeline is that we’ll be tying the knot before October, 2014 (but I know he’s probably thinking IN October 2014 rather than in the next year or two), I spent about a week thinking “well, crap, am I going to be waiting for the next four years?” Part of me has been kind of down, thinking that four years is going to feel sooooooooo loooooong.
But SO has also been really encouraging me to get excited, and every time that I do something with my friend who’s getting married this spring (like try on bridesmaids dresses for her or going to a bridal show with her), he keeps saying I should look for stuff for me/us, too.
At first, I was adamantly against it and told him that it was crazy to start planning a wedding before you’re engaged. I’d kind of gone on a small planning-crazy kick last spring before I got myself convinced that it was silly to get excited over plans before you had a timeframe. But now that my SO is thinking in terms of an actual timeline, and I know for sure I’d like to do a bunch of DIY stuff, is it too soon to start project-planning and idea-gathering and whatnot? I mean, four years is a crazy-long time… but knowing how much DIY I’d like to do and how much time it takes to do that sort of thing, I might be able to use this time to my advantage. And my SO can’t complain that I’m getting ahead of myself, since he told me to 😛
Have I lost my marbles or does this sound remotely practical? 😛
Post # 3
I think it’s a good idea to start researching and gathering ideas, but I wouldn’t actually start executing anything yet. You’ll find so much out there, styles will change, and you’ll keep changing your mind if you have that much time to think about it.
Post # 4
Start as early as you like esp. when it comes to DIY projects. If you gather your ideas now, you will be thanking yourself later.
Post # 5
Hmmm…, that’s 4 years from now. Styles do change a lot. I don’t know if I will DIY anything in the near future. Of course I am incredibly lazy 🙁
Post # 6
4 years is a long time… What about taking a class that is wedding related? Baking, calligraphy, designing etc, I’m sure you could find tons of neat classes all having to do with weddings.
Post # 7
What I’m thinking of is taking the ideas that strike my fancy and just researching what all I’d need to do it, how to do it, and get an estimate of what it would probably cost — no actual “do-ing” of the DIY 😛 That way, if I change my mind, I haven’t actually invested money or much time, but I’ll be set to go if I decide to use that idea.
Post # 9
I am with 7mom – start taking some classes and seeing what would be possible for you to do. I particularly like the idea of calligraphy! If you get really good at it you could even make it a side business! Lots of brides love the calligraphy look but lack the skills to do it themselves.
4 years is a long time, I just wouldn’t commit to spending hours making hundreds of poms only to find out in 4 years time you hate them! Plus you dont know what venue you will be in and the decorating options you have.
Post # 10
Do what you know you’ll commit to. I knew what I wanted my DIY invitations to look like and my boyfriend and I committed ourselves to a color scheme, so I now have the enclosures with lokta paper and envelopes for them. That is about all I want to do for the moment though. I’m pretty sure when we get engaged and lock down the contract for our venue, I’ll buy some rubber stamps to decorate it some more but I have been so busy with school that I’ve lost steam on that.
My experience as a lady-in-waiting (ring is ready in about a week and a half, and he said his proposal date is December..) is that my ideas changed a lot… but I knew what was going to be “it” for certain elements. I spent about a week going to stores and looking online at my invite options and finally found something I love.
I figured out the earthy elements of our decor so, really, the only thing I am divded about now is the centerpiece styles and other small things.
So… go with the flow and enjoy it!
Post # 11
I think it’s fine to put together a tear-sheet album or journal of ideas and stuff that you have–just tear out articles and stuff from the magazines or put together style collages that kind of stuff.
BUt don’t start actually doing the DIY stuff until it’s time because your tastes will change between now and then.
Post # 12
i wouldn’t do any diy just yet, but definitely start piecing together your ideas and inspirations. with this much time before the actual wedding, you’ll change your mind about something. some people change their mind in the time between engagement and the wedding! imagine what can happen with almost 4 years. use this time to figure out a completion plan. that way, when it’s time to start planning, you’ll have a good timeline for all the projects you’ll want to do without stressing about getting everything done.
for me, i’ve started looking for ideas on 2006 when i was helping my bestie plan her wedding and i have a good idea of my diy projects [though i keep changing them] and priced them out so i have a rough idea of how much things will cost. i don’t think anything i originally came up with stayed the same. not even the colors! and don’t get me started on the invites. i’ve gone through 12 revisions already and i’m still waiting. lol.
i also agree with the idea of taking classes now. that’s a good idea.
Post # 13
Ya I think it is a little early to set anything in stone. A lot of things changed for us when we started actually going to buy things and putting it together. For instance when we chose the flowers we changed the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress color and when we changed that we also decided on what color table cloths would look best. It goes on and on.
Post # 14
@BlueRidgeMere: May I ask why your wedding has to be put off so long? Seems like both you and SO are looking forward to it, so I’m a little confused. Mine is about 20 months out, and I would not feel comfortable doing any DIY projects yet, but I don’t see anything wrong with getitng some ideas on paper. Of course your tastes and wedding trends will come and go in that time, but if it would be fun for you to plan out an inspiration board or something, go for it!