Waiting and "financial stability"

posted 2 months ago in Waiting
Post # 16
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Sorry to hear that, I know how hard it is to wait when you are ready to get engaged today! However, I agree that job situation and lack of financial stability makes it harder for guys to actively plan the marriage.

Is this the first time you put some sort of timeline on when you would like to get engaged (by the end of the year)? Or were there any other prior timelines that he didn’t meet? If this is the first time and it seems like he agreed to that, I say you just need to gather all the patience you have and wait until the end of the year – it is only 5 months left! I did the same thing – the only difference was that I said I want to be married by next year and it worked! Try to stay patient and don’t bring up the topic too often. If you are still where you are by the end of the year and depending on job situation, be prepared to have a serious conversation. Until then enjoy your life as boyfirend and girlfriend

Post # 18
977 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

grackle :  I find it odd that you’ve been living together for 3 years and feel so ready to get married yet he is paying for bills with his savings while looking for a job. It doesn’t seem like your are living as a team.

Post # 20
1174 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

grackle :  I don’t really blame you for wanting to be engaged bee, 4.5 years is a long time. I’ve never really understood the whole “needing to be completely financially stable” before getting married idea, besides of course having enough to comfortably cover the costs of the rings/wedding. I mean, for richer or for poorer right? Neither myself or my new husband have full time jobs at the moment (just moved overseas recently, I am starting a 6 year full-time doctorate university program in September) but finances, or our lack of financial stability while being students, never really mattered to us when considering when to get engaged and married (besides the cost of the wedding of course). Our job statuses do not change the fact that we want to and will spend our lives together. Also I think if you were 35 instead of 25, a lot more of the responses would be in your favour. 

All this being said, I think it’s really great that you are both happy to use your grandmother’s ring and have a small wedding, and honestly the end of 2017 isn’t far away! I’m sure it will happen for you soon 🙂

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