@ksn1219: Yay another southerner! Someone who knows first hand what its like down here haha. I think I’d we lived in another area it wouldn’t be half as bad. Hope you enjoy Oregon! I always wanted to live there since I was little, such beautiful landscapes. Maybe a part of me wanted to get as continentally far away from Georgia as possible even then. Lol.
Oh yeah, living in sin! I don’t get much of those anymore, as I distanced from my very conservative friends. But I remember the awkward talks about me ‘disobeying God and falling away blah blah blah.’ I think the area really is a part of the problem. There are liberal pockets in the city, but it wasn’t practical for us to move there as they are expensive and far away from our work.
yeah my parents/sisters and SO’s parents/sister are the only nice ones really. They’re very supportive of me. The extended family on both sides not so much. Tbh though its the strangers and acquaintances that are the most opinionated and rude. :/ Yay for your SO though! Showing off withnflowera, so cute. 😀
I envy you! Good for you, seriously! I wouldn’t wish the constant remarks and commentary on anyone. Its quite tedious so while I enjoy sympathizers, more power to girls that don’t have to listen to it on and on.
Good post. I’m finding that in my emotional fever yesterday morning I wasn’t as articulate as I should have been. Honestly, its not the lack of being seen as equal that bothers me, its the disrespect that I can’t stand. The idea that it is against some social norm for me to plan a life and be happy about doing so since I’m not engaged or married. If I could just ask for one thing, it would be respect for just being myself. I could(and sort of have) listed ‘qualifiers’ for why we’re serious in an effort for others to recognize we’re important, but honestly all I would really like is to not have the derogatory comments like ‘Obviously he doesn’t really love you if he hasn’t proposed by now’ or ‘You know what they say about milk and cow? Honey he’s getting a free glass every morning.’ Status wasn’t my best word choice, because really I’d just like to talk about buying a house, moving in together, getting a dog, without being condemned whereas now I must hide my life like its some clandestine affair. O.o
This post is golden! I appreciate the time you took to write this, because it was really impactful for me, so thank you. It probably is the area. My close friend from California constantly remarks on how crazy the cultural obsession with marriage and children in this part of town. If she hadn’t moved recently I probably wouldn’t be feeling as frustrated since she gets that it’s different around here. Everyone down here feels the right to comment on your life, from the woman who repaired my glasses to new acquaintances you come across at a party or social function. Everyone wants to know if someone is married and I’d not like theorize why(and normally not kindly either). And you’re right, its mostly people in groups 2/3, I’ve learned my lesson the first time when it came to sharing too freely. You’re right also in that I should open the lines of communication more with friends who have made remarks instead of shutting down like I would with stranger. It’s not fair to me to shut them out. Honestly I should know better too, to not get involved in myself so much and not give friends the benefit of the doubt. Thank again, I really appreciate your post and the time you took to read all my lengthy replies. :]