(Closed) Waiting and Stressing! Am I nuts?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Some things are better to just let go of – for instance, if he wants 3 best men then so be it, i would honestly just let him do it, its not worth the stress or arguing over and i mean the only thing it affects is how its written in the program. Compromise is something you will have to do often in wedding planning and throughout your marriage.

If you want an even number of groomsmen to bridesmaids i would do just as suggested and throw in another guy , i wouldnt choose between his sisters…just IMO – feelings WILL be hurt.

Budget/Who is paying is something you want to figure out first, before booking anything – have you asked your parents for help? do you two plan on paying yourself? once that is figrued out then i would move on to an actual number.

I come from a pretty good sized family. Im one of 5 kids (italian/Catholic) but my husband comes from a HUGE (Irish Catholi)  family, He is one of 13 kids…his mom is one of 12 and his dad is one of 15 so you can only imagine how many cousins, aunts,  uncles, grandkids, etc….Keeping the guest list to a minnimum was HUGE for us. We tried to keep it to family, immediate and extended and only invite a closest friends (which was mostly our bridal party) We opted for a February wedding (due to miliatry deployments in my family) but it actually worked out in our favor….Being that it was winter, the middle of the school year and about half our our guests had to travel from up north – i think this helped in keeping our guest list slim, Lots of No’s when RSVPs started coming in and i was actually happy about those no’s.  We also opted for a No Kids reception (besides siblings) which i think also played a huge part in keeping the guest list low. out of 250 guests we ended up with a 120. it was a perfect scenerio for us.

i wouldnt necessarily say the stress dwindles but it does get a little easier when you finally have some things locked down, like budget and venue – from there i found it a lot easier to plan..


Good Luck! Happy Planning!


Post # 4
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kimbean: 1st take a deep breath…..



When is your wedding? Whats your max cap you are looking to reach? Are you paying for everything or is your families helping?

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