- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Man of my dreams…check. Awesome and stable relationship…check. Financially secure… kinda sorta, enough to sustain myself and save a little… check. Ring on the way!!!… CHECK!
Agreeing on a wedding party… CRAP! Paying for a wedding… CRAP!!!
So last night I asked my boyfriend who he wants in our wedding party. He named some friends, his brother, and my brother. 5 people. He asked who I would chose, and I said named 4 friends and his 2 sisters. 5 and 6. Damn. There is a disconnect there. Secondly, I asked who his best man is, and he named TWO friends AND his brother. THREE BEST MEN? Am I crazy thinking that this is over the top? My feeling is when 60% of your wedding party is named “best”, it defeats the meaning of the title. Secondly, he said we don’t need to have both his sisters, as it makes an uneven number. How do I choose between his sisters?! I suggested that if he tells his two best friends that his brother is his best man, they’d understand, and that we could add one of my close guy friends as a groomsman to even things out…. we left it at that to avoid a fight, to be discussed later.
From wedding party, we moved to venue, and then I started another bout of freaking out! Who is going to pay for this wedding?! We have GIANT families. My family is Indian, and his is Irish Catholic. GIANT families! Tons and tons of people! His cousin’s wedding in 2009 had 300+ people, my cousin’s wedding in 2009 had 500+ people! We’re going to average around 300+… That is a TON of people to feed! (Trimming the guest list isn’t an option…).
Does anyone else get like this?! I feel insane. There isn’t even a ring on my finger, and we kinda sorta have a date… but that’s about it. Why am I stressing out so early? Does this get easier? Am I weird to stress?