(Closed) Waiting and VERY annoyed with girls!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1115 posts
Bumble bee

I try not be be around catty girls.  I’m too much of a quick-fire witty bitch for that.  I probably would have said something then and there.

Try to not let her bug you too much, and honestly feel free to defend yourself if she takes it too far.  You don’t have to stoop low to do it, just call her out.

And don’t let this affect your waiting.  Obviously the only thing she has that you want is a proposal, and yours is coming.  Let her be a desperately insecure cow.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Train87BEE:  This is going to sound bad, but if I were the other girl, and I saw a girl at the pool with make up and nicely done hair, and not wanting to swim or whatnot, I might think she was being snobby and looking down at me like I was childish. Which I am. A lot. I enjoy it.

Did she know you just got done with work? That you didn’t put on make up just to go to the pool?

I’m definitely not saying she’s right (and god knows I’m not right, my judgemental side is something I try to beat down with a stick every single day!).

On the other hand, I totally understand getting annoyed with girls who’ve been dating for so short an amount of time and then getting engaged. Whatever you do, do not let her know she bothers you. I feel like, from what you’ve described, she’s going to feel like she ‘won’ because you know, it’s totally a race Undecided

ETA: I don’t want you to think I didn’t read the post, about the swimming part. If I didn’t know that you had just gotten off work, and only wanted to sit in the hot tub. I just want to make sure you know that I’m not at all judging your not wanting to swim, just trying to maybe help you see her side.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think once you have decided you don’t like someone, everything they do and say becomes super annoying. Best plan is to just not hang out with her socially all that often. 

Post # 8
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462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Train87BEE:  I’m going to keep playing devils advocate for this post at least, I hope you don’t mind too much. I’m going to look at a few options.

1. She’s jealous of you. You have been dating this guy for 7 years. You’re in a stable relationship that is amazing. My SO’s best friends have been dating their GFs for 6 and 7 years. I know I was amazed by it (but I don’t call them out when they’re doing something I don’t like/disagree with/don’t understand etc). She is possibly threatened by you being in the picture longer than she has, and maybe was trying to put you down to make her look better, not saying it’s right, but it’s possible.

2. She’s an immature brat. They’re out there. They’re all ages. And they all suck. But that’s not all women. And I’ll bet she isn’t even like that all the time, but maybe she is. I don’t know her.

3. She really just doesn’t like you for some reason. I don’t know what it might be, what thoughts went through her head. Maybe her Fiance said something praise-worthy about you one time, and now she doesn’t like you.

Again. I don’t know. I’m not saying it’s logical, and I’m not saying you’re overreacting. I’m just trying to shed a little light. I know when people are angry/irritated/upset/or generally more emotional than normal, it can be more difficult to see.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Train87BEE:  The only reason I’m being kind of defensive of her, is because I was that girl, with my ex. It was not at all pretty. It was before therapy. And I was downright… terrible. I hated myself.

I actually sent a message to my ex apologizing for all the shit I put him through, but this thread made me realize his friends probably hate me too… And I know I have no chance of redeeming myself in their eyes, even though I am a different person thanks to growing up and therapy.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Cornmuffin09:  Though I will say that I wasn’t as bad as that. I never called out another girl for anything she did, but I did do a lot of things to make myself the center of attention. It was bad.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Freaking hate girls like this. Best advice I have is stay away!

If you don’t need to be around her, don’t be.

Also a hugeee +1 that once you hate someone, everything they do irks you. Especially when it is your Future Sister-In-Law and you are forced to see each other 😐

Post # 14
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Makena Cove

@Train87BEE:  I’ve been there so many times! My boyfriend (of 5 years) is the only guy in his group of friends that seems to be able to commit to a healthy relationship. I’ve seen so many catty, “fake” and immauture girls come and go. I can even relate to the pool thing! PDA, kissy faces, annoying comments, etc. Unfortunately (for you) they’re engaged and there’s not a whole lot you can do when it comes to social gatherings but I agree with other posters that avoiding her at all costs seems to be the way to go. Or, as they say in customer service “kill her with kindness.”

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I’m going to go against what other PPs have said and state that I think you’re over-reacting.  Why would you care what she thinks? Obviously she rubbed you the wrong way, but maybe you didn’t give her a great first impression either?

Post # 16
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Worker bee

So this is prob not healthy advice, but it helps me deal with some ladies at work who can act a little… immature. 

Watch her like a bad reality TV show star. I just sit and watch and judge/laugh. When they try to engage me in a mean or catty way, I just cant take them seriously. I usually just end up laughing and giving them a sincerly delivered but ironic or witty response, and wait to see if they get it. (generally no)  

It really actually helps! I actually like this one girl at work now, she’s just too ridiculous to take seriously, but as a form of entertainment, she’s top notch. 

Good luck!!

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