- 5 years ago
Hello lovely ladies!
I can’t express enough how appreciative I always am of your advice and encouragement. Weddingbee has helped me get through some of my most difficult waiting moments.
Anyway, I’ve been waiting for quite some time now. Probably close to a little over 2 years. I’ve been with my SO for almost 7 years. I am 31, and he is 28. We have waited for different reasons, such as school, jobs, etc. I’ve never pressured him even though I was ready to be married before he was. I’ve always wanted a proposal to come when he was ready, not because he felt pressured to do so from me. Lately, we have talked more about being ready to get married. We are currently working on a house together that he lives in. I’ve chosen not to live with him from the beginning because I’ve wanted there to be something for us to look forward to when we get married. We are so excited to be working on this house that we will eventually live in together when we are married. We talk about it all the time.
He has expressed to me more and more that he is ready to be married and start a life together. A few weeks ago he told me, “I am going to make you very happy very soon” and has hinted several times that my wait isn’t going to be much longer. His sister and one of our close mutual friends even told me that they think it will happen very soon. His sister thinks it will happen around Christmas. I sort of have a feeling it may happen around Christmas also because he asked that I stay with him Christmas eve at his house and we open gifts together first before we go to his family’s house. We have always stayed at his parents’ house and had Christmas with his family first. I have a feeling it could happen then, but I’m not 100% sure.. I just don’t know.
Anyway, I talked to his mom a couple of days ago, and she told me that she doesn’t think he is ready to be married yet. I’m not sure what to think or how to take this. A couple of his cousins have said the same thing. It really bothered me, so I asked him about it. He said that he is ready to get married soon. I expressed to him that I don’t want him to feel any pressure to do something he isn’t ready to do, and that if he really isn’t ready, then to please let me know. I told him I was worried that his mother and other people have told me that he isn’t ready yet. He told me that he is tired of our relationship being where it is and wants to move ahead to marriage. He also said that he knows I have been waiting very patiently and that he knows that waiting is getting harder and harder (This past year 9 of our close friends got engaged/married). I’m not sure what to think. I want to believe him. I know that he has talked to his mom about marriage. I don’t know if she is completely clueless as to what he wants, or if he is just telling me one thing and her another. Is it some kind of secret so that I have no idea he could propose? I just dont know. I’m scared that he isn’t ready, and that I will be waiting much longer, which honestly…I just don’t want to. We are both in the right place to get married. It’s time. I dont know if his mother thinks he isn’t ready and shouldn’t be getting married. She and I are very close and have a wonderful relationship. I don’t want to be getting my hopes up about something I have wanted with him for a very long time. I’m confused. I just want us to get married and be together. I don’t even care about a wedding. I don’t want to continue to wait anymore…