I first found this site about three months ago while searching out somewhere on the ‘net that had some advice for encore brides. Well, I’m not the encore, but my S.O is. I was having a lot of difficulty with not feeling like there were any “firsts” left for us to have together. Found the “Encore” section of this site and… VOILA… here I am.
I just turned 40 (I’m an old bag compared to most of you on here! LOL). Mr. N is 33. We live in Canada, in Quebec near the Ontario border. I work for the Government and he is in the military. I brought two cats to the relationship and he had a dog. We love wine, BBQing (yes – even in the winter!) , snowshoeing, watching hockey, trying to kick each other’s butt playing Jeopardy, and just plain-ole’ spending time together.
My S.O and I have been together for 7 months now. Not a super-long time in the “grand scheme” of things I guess but we both fell pretty hard and pretty quickly for one another. Our relationship was fast tracked a bit a few months back when he got surprise news he was getting deployed. He was scheduled to leave within a few days, so I started the procedures of moving in, in order to take care of his dog and house while he was away. Then we find out … he’s not going. Since I was planning on moving in with him in Jan 11 anyways, and my condo was now gone…. I stayed.
As mentioned in my first paragraph, I was having difficulties learning how to deal with his previous marriage and after some work on both our parts, (some of which I took from advice given by you Bees – so thank you~) we have come out on top. Our relationship is pretty fantastic. We don’t always see eye-to-eye, but we bring out the best in each other and his weaknesses are strengths of mine, and vice-versa. Combine that we both having similar goals and are in the same phase and stages of life (despite our age difference….I have a young mentality and he has an old soul), I think we have a great foundation to build “forever” on.
We both really want to be married together and have a baby. Since I am not a “spring chicken” our baby-making plans are for the nearer future (in a year or so – *fingers crossed I can get pregnant!* and so is our marriage. We both want a destination wedding. I’m not fussy about my ring and want it to be a complete surprise, but I have picked out my dress already and must admit, am DAMN tempted to purchase it in advance as I am finding it second hand for some seriously great prices! No engagement ring yet, but I did get a beautiful promise ring that is made from a local designer for Christmas and he had it engraved with “I will always be with you, Love Mr. N”. My heart melted. J
I love this board and you guys make it awfully hard not to diddly-dally here at work 😛
My best wishes to my fellow “ladies in waiting”