(Closed) Waiting Bee- Intro Thread

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 332
Member
30 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hi bees! I posted my first post the other day and I didn’t have time to make my intro thread so here it goes…as best as I can put this!

My boyfriend and I met 13 years ago when i was 18 and he was 21. I’m now 31 and he is 34. 

My best friend in highschool was dating one of his best friends. She had been telling me about him for so long and how perfect he was for me to the point it freaked me out and I didn’t want to meet him so she forced it and invited him to a halloween party we were going to without telling me. Well he ended up being really charming and handsome and as much as I didn’t want to like him i couldn’t help it. he was right by side and within probably an hour he grabbed my hand and held it for the rest of the night. Then he showed up at my work the next morning. he was different from the other guys I was seeing before but much much more what I wanted. He was it, she was right. We had so much in common and he was so much fun.

Well I guess we got too deep too soon. We had a lovely relationship though we were best friends and wonderful lovers. we didn’t fight and everyone we knew wanted what we had. I just appreciated it. Didn’t expect to lose him but he got so scared and I got pregnant when I was 20. He couldn’t be with me for no reason back then and couldn’t explain it to me but he wouldn’t leave either. It was killing me as I was young and pregnant and loved him much. I had to move out to force him out and that’s what I did back then πŸ™ I lost him to someone else. I sat around for 8 years watching their relationship go up and down and she was awful to him, very abusive. I felt horrible for him it was hard for me to get on with my life. I loved and cared about him. She got pregnant and that was why he stayed with her for so long. He felt like a huge jerk for leaving me and not working things out with me that he felt he had to make it work with her and he thought I wouldn’t ever take him back after what he did. 

Little did he know my frusterations in my life were mostly cause of him. I tried to get on, i did well. I worked hard on my career and being the best mom I could. His family all loved me and hated her. It was hard for me to watch when the whole time I thought we should have been together. 

They finally ended for good and he started hanging out with me again two years ago, on his own. He seemed so nervous and would never say what he wanted though but I could just tell. I finally told him that I didn’t want to live another day without him, and luckily he agreed!!! and we offically got back together february of 2010. he needed to handle his mess and I wanted him to be absolutly sure that I was what he wanted first. He tells me now there really wasn’t anything wrong with us that he was just scared cause we were so young and he couldn’t support me and we had never talked about marriage. It took us a long time to figure out what happened. So in the end…I have the love of my life back πŸ™‚ We’ve been going very strong since we have been back together. Since there is kids and we are not the richest couple we moved in together pretty much right away again :/ so we do live as though we are already married. And we have known eachother for 13 years. I love love love having him back in my life. I am still me as a person and I can’t say that all of this has been easy bliss because I have been through so much the last 13 years, I can’t even explain. But what matters is that we have a long life ahead of us and want nothing more than to spend it together. It’s more like we are starting over rather than fixing something that broke. We are both to blame for what happened. So that brings us now to the point where we really should get married and want to finally do things the right way. Or maybe it’s just that we should have 10 years ago…..

So…at this point there is a ring…it’s an antique and my great grandmothers wedding ring that i just love to death and it fits me absolutly perfect. I gave it to him to give to me someday back in april. He wanted to propose to me right then but he wasn’t prepared and not stable in his life which i understand and it was not even expected i just wanted him to have it. We’re at the point now where he has a great new job now, and he’s been going back to school and about to graduate. He has proved everything to me and I am really happy to have him back and know I’ve made the right choice. His ex found her perfect man too and the kids are happy, everything is happy now. whew. 

So I’m here on the wedding bee because I don’t really have many girlfriends to talk to about this stuff nor that care about weddings. but honestly i do, I just have no idea what I’m doing. πŸ™‚ my mom wants the big wedding so i do want to give that to her, plus I’m a designer myself so I know we will have the grandest party ever. But when he was out of the picture i didn’t even want marriage at all really, but now that we are in this together I want nothing more. go figure. however as scared as I’ve been to get back with him and hoping that he will want to marry me someday it turns out that he’s been telling everyone i’m his fiance already and he loves it. He just has to propose to me now and make me a part. Since we met on halloween 13 years ago I assume that is when he will do it. hopefully he doesn’t know I’m thinking that πŸ™‚ And I still want to be surprised so I’m going to do my best in erasing that thought out of my head!

thanks for listening bees! Good luck to all of you in life and love. 

 

 

Post # 333
Member
23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hi there ladies! I’m another who is finally de-lurking and looking to join the hive! The post-a-thon just gave me my PUSH to finally do it! πŸ™‚

 

I’m a 21-year-old student/health care worker who just celebrated my 4-year-anniversary (August 1st!) with my lovely. We met in high school and have been madly in love ever since. Lately, our talks have turned to gettin’ hitched, and thus I have been [anxiously] waiting!

As for wedding planning… I’m not exactly looking forward to it. I wish someone else would plan a beautiful wedding FOR me…I’d just show up and look pretty. πŸ˜‰

Post # 334
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi ladies!

I am one of the younger waiting bees at the age of 20.  I met my 22-year-old SO on World of Warcraft (that’s right, a video game!) where we firstly just enjoyed one another’s company, then we realized that it was something much, much more than that!  I lived in Vegas at the time, and my man lived in Southern Cali.  He drove across the desert to bring me home with him and start the rest of our lives together.  My mother adores him and has requested for him to ask my hand in marriage when he is ready to propose.

We have discussed marriage and agree it is right for us, and from the sounds of it, he wants to propose soon.  I’ve been looking for signs and nudging towards him that holiday season is approaching (his birthday, Thanksgiving, my birthday, Halloween – my FAVORITE holiday, Christmas, New Years) so perhaps he’ll get the hint!  I am not sure if he has a ring yet, he’s very good at keeping me in the dark — he wants it to be a total surprise.  I’ve looked at rings and dresses a bit, but as I have told my Mr., it’s not about the ring, it’s about the love behind the ring.  I’m just really one to get antsy, so the most wedding/engagement-related steps I’ve taken is venting how impatient I am when it comes to the waiting process hehe! : )

Post # 335
Member
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi ladies!

I am one of the younger waiting bees at the age of 20.  I met my 22-year-old SO on World of Warcraft (that’s right, a video game!) where we firstly just enjoyed one another’s company, then we realized that it was something much, much more than that!  I lived in Vegas at the time, and my man lived in Southern Cali.  He drove across the desert to bring me home with him and start the rest of our lives together.  My mother adores him and has requested for him to ask my hand in marriage when he is ready to propose.

We have discussed marriage and agree it is right for us, and from the sounds of it, he wants to propose soon.  I’ve been looking for signs and nudging towards him that holiday season is approaching (his birthday, Thanksgiving, my birthday, Halloween – my FAVORITE holiday, Christmas, New Years) so perhaps he’ll get the hint!  I am not sure if he has a ring yet, he’s very good at keeping me in the dark — he wants it to be a total surprise.  I’ve looked at rings and dresses a bit, but as I have told my Mr., it’s not about the ring, it’s about the love behind the ring.  I’m just really one to get antsy, so the most wedding/engagement-related steps I’ve taken is venting how impatient I am when it comes to the waiting process hehe! : )

Post # 336
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2 posts
Wannabee

Hi Ladies,

I am fairly new here (this is my first post) but i’ve come across alot of talk about the ‘waiting list’. How does one join the waiting list? I am currently (im)patiently waiting for my SO of almost 3 yrs to pull out a nice shiny ring, but as of yet its not happened!I love this site as my friends and are nuts about weddings and love to look at everybody elses ideas! I can’t wait to keep sharing with you all!

Here’s a quick spiel about me! I am from Queensland, Aus, and am studying to be a HS Teacher. My SO is a finance major, and so is constantly looking for the most “economically appropriate” time to buy my ring/plan a wedding! It drives me nuts but that’s why I love him! If any advice on getting through the waiting period without going batty I’d be very appreciative!

I’m glad to see some younger bee’s here! I am 21 and my SO is 20 and discuss getting married quite frequently, and have been for a while! Most of our friends are in serious long-term relationships and a few are married so it’s not like we don’t know what we’re getting into! Recently SO has been dropping hints and talking about engagements which is only fuelling my wedding browsing obsession! I have been trying to not so subtly suggest that our 3yr anniversary in 2 weeks would be a perfect time, though I don’t think that’s going to happen! Hopefully soon though!

Anyway I should go! Can’t wait to get chatting with you all ladies!

Kelly.

Post # 337
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3 posts
Wannabee

I see I’m not the only lurker coming out of hidingSmile I’m 28 and have been with my boyfriend for over 8 years….Can I just say it’s great to read everyone’s posts and realize I’m not the only one who has been in such a long relationship? It’s especially helpful since I’m pretty sure if I have to see “the look” one more time after someone asks how long we’ve been together, I might have a nervous breakdown!

Post # 338
Member
12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi everyone!

I love all sorts of crafting and sewing.. having recently picked up some sewing skills over the past year so I’m looking forward to DIY-ing a couple of wedding things in the near future (hopefully!)

My parents met the boy randomly at the airport (story for another time) and introduced us… and the rest as they say is history πŸ™‚ We have been together for almost a year and I have recently moved halfway around the world to be together with him..

I know for a fact that he has the ring because he cannot keep a secret from me to save his life… in fact I brought the ring back for him as it was much cheaper to get it from USA than where he lives…and not to mention tried it on and everything to make sure it fits before I brought it back πŸ˜› I guess its kind of an unusual situation to be in..

So basically I am waiting for a proposal, which he says will happen some time in the next 2 months… My family is coming to visit me in November so I am guessing it will happen after that as he has to ask my parents for my hand first! πŸ™‚ In the meantime he has been bugging me to wear the ring to family events, etc. but I am refusing because how weird would it be to have people ask about how he proposed and I have nothing to tell them?? Lol..

Post # 339
Member
13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hello Bees!

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I’m pretty sure the proposal will happen sometime around my birthday, which is in less than a month! I’ve been reading the boards and blogs for a few months (at my boyfriend’s suggestion, odd? I would say so, haha) and have found them so helpful and fun to read! So I decided it was time to stop lurking and get in on the action!

Post # 340
Member
10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi Ladies,

I’ve been lurking around the boards for a while, but finally decided to post. I’m 24 and live in Boston. My boyfriend and I just celebrated our four year anniversary in June. We’ve been living together for the last 2 and half years.

Needlessly to say, I’ve been waiting for a proposal for a while. It’s only been more recently that its frustrating. Everytime someone asks how long we’ve been together, I get  “When are you getting married”. My response is the usuall “Go ask the BF”. We’ve been to three of his friend’s weddings in the past few years. And now it seems like eveyone that we know that’s been together less time than we have is getting engaged. Does anyone else get sad or frustrated everytime they get a text or email with a picture of an engagement ring with the words “I’M ENGAGED!!!!”  I know I’m just being silly/jealous, but it still would be nice for that to be me sooner or later. 

Post # 341
Member
2 posts
Wannabee

Hi ladies!

I’ve been looking around recently, and decided I’d join in on the fun! 

I’m a 26 yo 4th year pharmacy student in Alabama and my BF and I have been together 6 years in November. We’ve been doing the long distance thing since December when he graduated and got a job in Mississippi. This isn’t the first time we’ve done the long distance thing either. About a year and a half after we started dating, he was deployed and was gone for just over a year. So this time around the long distance thing isn’t quite as bad, however it still sucks. 

We’ve always said that we wanted to wait to get married until at least one of us had a job and we could support ourselves without the help of our parents (or student loans). Well, I graduate in May, and like I said, he graduated last December. After he got a job, I figured he would propose within 6 months, which would give me about a year until I graduate, and would give me ample time to plan a wedding. Well, graduation is now 8 months off, and still no ring. Lately, I’ve found myself being really nosey and searching for any sign of a proposal. About 2.5 weeks ago, the BF called and asked me for a ring size! Now, I’m impatiently waiting for that exciting moment when he asks me to spend the rest of my life with him! 

So yeah, add me to the list of Waiting Bees! 

 

Post # 342
Member
222 posts
Helper bee

Hi everyone..I recently turned 26, and have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We both decided to go back to school for our Master’s in Public Accountancy and  will be completing our degrees (finally!) next August 2012. I am “supposed” to be studying for my CPA exam right now, but thanks to weddingbee, have become very easily distracted.

I don’t think we will become engaged until next summer (2012), when we are both out of school, working full time and have the pressure of the CPA exam off our shoulders. ALTHOUGH, his family (especially his father) want him to propose sooner than later (they even offered to give him a loan for the ring!). I know he is saving up, but his mother doesn’t want me to have anything less than 2 carats (not going to complain about that). Either way, I love my boyfriend to death and am looking forward to whatever the future holds for us. πŸ˜€

Post # 343
Member
34 posts
Newbee

Hello everyone!

I am 25 and have been with my 24 year old guy for the past 7 years!  We met at a party the summer before our senior year of HS (we went to two different schools) and I initially dated his best friend for 3 months and hung out with the two of them constantly.  Lo and behold, 2 hours after his best friend and I decided we were going to break up, he called me and asked me out on a date!  We have been together ever since, and it has not been without its ups and downs, but he is the perfect guy for me! 

We currently have been living together for a little over a year and are slowly adding to our family (i.e. we finally think we’re grown up enough to adopt a kitten lol).  We have been talking about getting married for the past year, but no proposal yet!  I do know, through some super-sleuthing, that he has the ring.  He did, however, tell me that he will propose before the end of the year, and I am so excited to finally be able to call him my husband!

Post # 344
Member
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh thank God I found this website cause I feel like I’m going crazy!

My name is Katy and I live outside of Philadelphia, PA.  I’m 28 and I work as the bookkeeper and billing person at a lawfirm in town.  I enjoy reading, am obsessed with music and my two cats who I refer to as my kids (I don’t care how “crazy cat lady” that makes me sound – I’m used to it! lol)

I have known my SO since 6th grade (17 years).  We reunited St. Patty’s Day of 2009 and have been inseparable ever since. We’ve been talking about marriage since about 6 mos. into the relationship, but due to the fact that 2010 was the worst year in both of our lives (lay-offs, deaths in the family, financial troubles, injuries – ugh) all plans for moving forward were put on hold.

Things have been much better since the beginning of this year and he claims he’s proposing by the end of this year.  I think he has the ring already – but I’m not quite sure.  I actually thought the proposal was coming last weekend (we went to VA for a long weekend and ya know, VA is for lovers!) but no such luck.  So now I’m still IMpatiently waiting. 

My question to all of you is – do you sometimes feel like you’re obsessed with and completely consumed by anxiousness and impatience?  I just feel like I’m more than ready to get to planning the wedding so we can start our lives truly together.

Post # 345
Member
20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hello!  I am a waiting bee who actually took a break from wedding bee about a year ago as a way to take my mind off of engagement and wedding related things.  It worked really well, but now I’m back because the boyfriend has confirmed that he will propose by the end of this year.  Now that I know a proposal is in the works, I feel like I’m in a better mindset to participate on this website without driving myself crazy with waiting related thoughts.  

To let you know a little about me, I’ll be 27 years old later this year and I currently reside in Philadelphia, but I’m from NC.  I work in the mental health field as a music therapist.  My boyfriend is 30 years old and he is a software tester for a rather large telecommunications company.  

We want a 1 – 2 year engagement so that we’ll have plenty of time to plan things.  Once it set in that we’re really truly getting engaged this year, the thought hit me that, “Boy!  we have a lot of stuff to do during the next year!”  Being a part of the wedding bee community will be a great resource as we enter this next stage of our relationship.  I look forward to getting to know many of you during the next couple of years!  

 

 

Post # 346
Member
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Thought I’d introduce myself!  I’m so happy to have found this board.  I’ve been with my boyfriend for the last 4 and a half years!  I’m 28 and I work in the field I chose to go to school for, my job is very important to me.  I guess that once I began working in my profession I really wanted to get married and settle down, buy a house, have some kids!  I feel the clock ticking. 

I love my boyfriend so much and he has confirmed that a proposal is well on its way, should be here soon- I posted before about that.  I’m very excited and I’m glad I now have this place to come and vent about waiting because I’m sure my poor friends have gotten tired of my complaining and I don’t blame them one bit at all.  It’s so nice to know that I’m not alone and I look forward to getting to know the other bees.

 

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