(Closed) Waiting Bee- Intro Thread

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 62
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Blushing bee

I feel a little weird about posting on here but oh well. Can’t be a lurker forever!

My bf and I knew each other in a small PA high school. We had a sociology class together my junior year (his senior year) and sat next to each other and were partners for a couple of projects due to our assigned seating. I had a bit of a crush on him and I think he liked me too but nothing ever happened between us.

After I graduated from high school I moved to FL for college while he moved to NY for school. Facebook was a very new site at the time and I friended him (This was the time when you needed a college email to be on the site and most of my friend’s colleges weren’t even recognized by facebook yet…a lot has changed since 2005). We would stay up at all hours of the night just talking – facebook messages, AIM, the phone, etc and we realized that both of us wanted to move home and try different schools.

We kind of dated on and off for about a year or two – but we were never “official” Finally, in June 07 we decided to be a real couple. It’s almost been 3 years and we have been absolutely inseparable since. It’s funny looking back now that every step of our relationship took a long time. It took us years to hang out and years to finally commit as bf/gf. We have ‘officially’ been together for 3 years, but we have had a silly relationship of liking each other for more than 6! We talk pretty often now about getting engaged and married. I think we are both ready emotionally – but we’re working now on becoming financially ready.

I started reading wedding blogs a couple months ago and finally decided to join weddingbee last week. Right now I’m not officially planning anything, I’m just in the stage of saving ideas that I like to use as inspiration later. He knows I do this and makes fun of me for it. If he ever found out I wrote this, I would never see the end of it! Haha

*edit: Just for reference I’m 23 and he’s 24.

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Hi everyone!!

I’m waiting too!  My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I met in college 3 years ago, though we had mutual friends from high school that we didn’t know about.  We didn’t like each other first, swore we’d NEVER date each other (never say never haha), and now here we are totally in love and talking about marriage.

I am 23 and an elementary teacher.  My man is 22 and is finishing up school to be a high school teacher.  We joke that we are getting a good deal because now we’ll have summers and snow days to be together. πŸ™‚

Originally we had planned on getting married this summer, but after talking about it for awhile, we decided to wait another year.  It just wasn’t right timing, and even though it was tough to have a date in mind and then choose to push it back a year.  But, I can honestly say it was the best decision we’ve ever made as a couple!

Now, I’m just waiting for a proposal, which hopefully will be coming by the end of the summer.  I can’t wait to spend my life with him!!  I love reading your stories too and I can’t wait to share ideas with you all!

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m 20, so a youngin like some of you πŸ™‚ SO and I met freshman year of college (last year) and about two weeks after we started dating, I got the acceptance letter for a year long study abroad program in Innsbruck, Austria.  We talked about it a little, and he knew it was my dream to get accepted to this program, and we kept on dating with the tentative idea that we would break up over the summer, or before I left for Europe.

Well one night over that summer, we started talking about me leaving again, and he was hinting that he wanted to stay together.  I laid it out for him, saying that if he was in for this long distance relationship, I was going to give 100% effort to make this year work, and that is also what I expected from him.  Luckily, he accepted <3 we talked about expectations when it came to talking, work, social events, interactions with the opposite sex, everything.

It’s also complicated because he wanted to study abroad fall semester of junior year, the year I’d be back at school! But we both knew what kind of opportunity it is to have the freedom and flexibility to study abroad in college, and the benefits it could have to our future careers, etc.  We were both nervous going into this year and a half apart, but now that it’s May, and my year is coming to an end, it feels like we can overcome anything.

A few months into our relationship, we knew we were practically made for each other, and that we were going to get married someday.  We’ve talked about marriage, children, education, jobs, politics, incomes, finances, religion, pets, everything.  And we’re on the same page with 99% of it.  We’re probably going to get engaged by spring of senior year, and then go to grad school either together or in the same city, and get married sometime after grad school.  So looong engagement for me!

He’s coming to visit me at home this summer for three weeks; I’m so excited!

PS That’s us in my little avatar, in his home state of Vermont. Yay covered bridges!

Post # 65
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hi everyone, another long time lurker lol. Im 24 turning 25 in August. My SO and I have been together fro almost 4 1/2 years. We met while working at Costco and for me it was pretty much love at first sight. I guess he felt the same, he told his mom about me before we even talked and she told him to ask me out lol. I know he’s picked out the ring and now im just waiting but hopefully not for too much longer πŸ™‚ 

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I FEEL like a young’un but maybe I’m not!  πŸ™‚  I’m 27.  Full-time grad student + part-time work = full-time crazy for sure, but I only have one more year left on my master’s degree, so hopefully it won’t be like this for long.

Have been dating MNbf for almost two years now.  I’ve known for a long time that he’s the guy.  We’ve both told each other that we want to get married.  I would like to be done with graduate school and working before we’d start planning – and paying for – a wedding (but I’d be okay being engaged before graduation, for sure!). 

He wants to live together before engagement, and since I’m fine with it either way, we’re moving in together this summer.  (I know, we’re slow movers.)  He also wants to be more financially together and in a better career place before we get married…

…hence the waiting.  I am trying to be patient and I know it isn’t a good time in our lives right now (i.e. graduate school, mutual brokeness, etc)…but I still wish we could get married.  Sigh. 

Post # 67
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hello!

I’m 23 and my Boyfriend or Best Friend (22) and I have been together 3.5 amazing years, there is a 90% chance that we will be married by the end of the year depending on a job possibility for him that is pretty certain to go through. The job possibility involves a 300+ mile move for us. If that job doesn’t go through us getting married will be pushed off a couple more years while he finishes school. If it does go through we will most likely be engaged sometime between June & Sept. I am patiently waiting and just enjoying every second of the wedding dreaming process. There is no doubt in my mind that he is the one for me so whether we get married this year or 3 years from now I am happy happy! πŸ™‚

Post # 68
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Wannabee

I’m a 22yr old almost college graduate and my bf is a year behind me at 21! We’ve been together almost a year and a half and some major changes are about to happen…like me moving 2.5 hours away in December and him graduating in May!

He’s sneaky, but a tease. He took me to look at rings around our 6mo anniversary and got me all excited…but then didn’t want to talk about it anymore (trying to be sneaky because it’s “funny”). BOYS! And so I put it out of my mind, but he brings it up every once in a while.

A couple of months ago he started pulling my close friends to the side to tell them he had picked a date to ask me and knew how he would (this was new so i was very excited). So of course I obsessively planned. I EVEN WORK AT A WEDDING RENTAL STORE!!! So i plan all day anyway, setting up weddings, playing with centerpeices and bouquets….. and i live vicariously through the brides haha!

But looks like the bf is trying to drive me crazy again. I know he loves me and he uses “we” and “us” when he talks of the future, but he just wants everything to be a surprise. Let’s just hope he doesn’t want to surprise me YEARS from now. SIGH!

 

 

Post # 69
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Newbee

Hi. I’m 26 and my SO (28) and I have been dating for about 2 years. We met at work, both engineers. We both agreed a long time ago that we wanted to get married, even though none of our co-workers know we even dating. Nope, there is not a company policy against dating at work. Our company is full of husbands and wives. We just chose to keep it a secret until we got engaged in case it didn’t work out. We decided this from day 1.

Finally, he suggested we shop for rings about 1 month ago. I figured we were “just looking” and set a mental date that he would propose for my birthday in September or around the holidays. Well, boy was I wrong. On mother’s day he disappeared and would not tell me where he was just that is was a surprise for me. He was not at any of his usual hang outs like his parent’s house or best friends. He still won’t tell me but I found a note in his jeans with the exact type of ring I picked out. So I know that it is ordered or maybe even in his possession.

The fact that both our families keep dropping hints to me is driving me crazy. My dad asks when we are getting married and if I’m ready. His mom says I can’t wait until we have another wedding in the family. I haven’t told anyone, other than you girls, that I have a clue. I’m so very impatient and I’m going crazy. I want my ring now! I can’t wait to be his wife!!! But now that I know he has the ring, I’m in more agony than ever. This weekend we are going to visit his sister out of town and I hope he gives it to me there. If he doesn’t I won’t get it for a while because we will both be out of town separately for memorial day weekend and the next two weekends I have weddings to attend in another city.

Long story short…ADD ME TO THE LIST

And I’m glad I’m not the only one going crazy over this.

Good luck ladies!

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m from… well, alot of places! Army brat starting to put down roots with my NY boy here in good ol’ Kentucky. We met at work, on the very first day (at orientation) and we’ve been together ever since. He’s 30, I’m 19, scandalous, I know. However, I’m not exactly the average 19 year old, considering I’ve got a Bachelor’s in Accounting and am currently a budget manager at a Fortune 500 company, managing two budgets that encompass 24 departments. So everyone that knows me is super supportive of SO and I’s discussions of marriage. My family loves him and his family adores me. Everyone is just waiting for him to propose! I have started planning a little–setting the budget! lol, it’s what I do best. Our biggest struggle will be coming to an agreement on what is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding. We’ve ring shopped several times and have found *the ring*. Right now, SO is just having a blast teasing me about proposing and telling me that everything is “nunya”. He’s sooo convinced each question is a carefully executed strategic plot to sucker information out of him about the proposal. So here I am, another (im)patiently waiting bee!!!

Post # 71
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Newbee

Wow!  You have NO idea how much better I feel after finding this board!  I’ve been “lurking” around here, bookmarking ideas, etc since October 2009!! πŸ™‚

My Boyfriend or Best Friend took me ring shopping in October 2009 – which is why I started crusing around for ideas.  However, no ring yet!  He wants to make sure it’s a surprise.  He’s a romantic!  Although, I do have to admit, I’ve gotten rather impatient!!  This August, we’ll have lived together for two years – us and our two rescued dogs.

He’s 4 1/2 years younger than me.  We used to work together.  I was one of his supervisors…so we broke a few rules!  He was engaged to his HS sweetheart while still in college.  Needless to say, it didn’t work out.  (I know a little more about it all than I’d care to know!)  I moved back to SoCal after college – thinking I was going to marry my college Boyfriend or Best Friend.  Obvoiusly that didn’t work out either!  (Current Boyfriend or Best Friend knows little about it.)  Anyhow, my point is, we’ve both been in pretty serious relationships before…which is why we both have had our reservations.  I’ve tried to tip toe around the topic for awhile.  I mean, we’d talk about it a lot.  My knee jerk reaction was, “it’s all hypothetical.”  That, well, it offended him.  I’m much more of a “put your money where your mouth is” person.  We’re working on it! πŸ™‚

He wants a short engagement – like 6 mos.  He doesn’t want to look at tons of venues and have TOO much time to stress.  He wants to get through it quickly and enjoy the day.  Over the course of a few weeks, I slowly started planting seeds for him to understand why 6 mos wouldn’t work.  Most of my family – by most I mean ALL of my immediate family – are Out of Town.  My father, a US citizen, lives overseas and his new wife, who has never left the Philippines before, doesn’t have a visa.  Plus, if we’re going to keep costs “under control,”  I need time to plan and find ways to cut corners.  (especially since we’d probably have to foot the bill for my father and his wife <– just married last year so no, she is not my step mother Innocent) (oh – and she’s a year younger than me…but he’s happy with her and she takes care of him!)

I like to think the seeds have not only been planted but have blossomed beautifully!  Over the past 2-3 months, we’ve checked out three venues together (Springfield Banquet Center, The French Estate, and Covina Hills Ranch Estate.)  We’ve also discussed budgets.  This one, we’re having a little issue with…but…we’re getting there.  He’s so sweet in that he wants me to have the wedding of my dreams.  He wants it to be this big, grand event.  He’s slowly starting to understand that “the wedding of my dreams” is one that 1) we fund on our own (I’m in my early 30’s and he’s in his late 20’s.  We both have stable, decent paying jobs.) 2) we don’t go into debt for and 3) doesn’t cost more than my car.  (I drive a Hyundai Elantra.  After tax, license and interest expense, it’ll cost just shy of $17k.) 

OMG!  I didn’t tell you about the ring!  He took me to Robbins Bros.  Didn’t let me or the sales person discuss prices, budgets, NOTHING about costs.  (Did I mention that I’m an accountant?  Then again…so is he!)  See, he knows me well.  If he said the budget is x amount, I would say, “Please factor in the cost of the diamond and only show me settings which are at a lower price point.”  I am not a label girl and I am quite ignorant about rings.  I chose a designer ring thinking the designer name was the name of the setting.  I felt HORRIBLE when my gf pointed it out to me.  (The conversation was actually a little comic. Girlfriend: Okay so which ring did you like?  Me: The Tacori style?  Girlfriend:  Um, Tacori is a designer with prime ad space in major bridal magazines – NOT a setting style.  Me: Oh s**t.)  Of course, after realizing what I had done, I was emphasizing even MORE how much just making a commitment made to me…not the ring itself.  He’s dead set on getting me that ring though.  He says, “I want you to see that ring everyday and know how much you mean to me and how much I love you.”  It is a stunnig ring.  However, right now, I HATE IT!  It’s too expensive and, from our discussions, it seems that the cost of the stupid thing is what is holding up the process!!  ARGH! <– expressed in the nicest, sweetest way possible!  I do commend him though on wanting to have it all paid off BEFORE proposing.  He’s is an amazing, incredible guy.  I would be extremely lucky to spend the rest of my life with him!  He puts up with me. πŸ™‚ 

Okay – sorry for the novel!!  It’s nice to meet all of you!!  I’m just another (im)patiently waiting bee. Cool

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

I just discovered the “waiting” area, and it seems like such a good, supportive environment.  My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, living together for one.  He has a ring (family heirloom), which he told me about in March but I don’t really know what it looks like.  We are planning to get married May 2011, and have talked with each other a lot about the details of the wedding but haven’t done any formal planning.  We haven’t made it official yet because my sister is getting married in July, and we would prefer not to “steal her thunder” so to speak.  So to me it really feels like we are already engaged, but I am just waiting on the ring and proposal, which is a-okay by me:)

Post # 73
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Newbee

Hi Bees! I’ve been lurking for a while but figured its time to introduce myself πŸ™‚ My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and we’ve had a number of conversations about our future together etc. We’ll be moving in together early next year and i’ll be starting grad school not this coming fall but fall 2011.

He and I are on the same page about getting married, but both of us are still in undergrad and as much as I want to start planning (DIY invites — bring it on!), I know in my heart it is not time. I flip flop between wanting to get married while i’m in grad school and have my dad/my school loans help us (i am very lucky, my father has had a fair amount of $ put away for a wedding for some time now), or wait until I graduate grad school and get a real job and have the financial freedom to have the wedding of my dreams.

Meanwhile, like I said, boyfriend and I are still in undergrad, so I think once he gets a job we will be able to get a bit more serious about when we’re going to get engaged. I have little interest in a huge diamond at this point in our lives. I’d much rather get a moissanite and replace it with a diamond 5 or 10 yrs from now. He knows this, but nonetheless I don’t think he can wrap his mind around engagement/wedding plans until he feels financially secure. I absolutely respect that and his sensibility is one of the many things I love about him πŸ™‚

In the meantime, I am keeping my DIY ideas and invitation dreams to myself (and you bees!) and just enjoying our relationship! Doesn’t mean I can’t ogle rings in my downtime from studying! πŸ™‚

 

Post # 74
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Bumble bee

Hello Bees!

25 years old in California, and my Man is 32. We met on eharmony… but I like to say we met in Barnes and Noble since thats when we first met face to face. We have been talking about eachother being “the one” 4 weeks into meeting! We are absolutely gaga about each other, and very excited! He bought the ring yesterday!!!! SO EXCITED and anxiously waiting!

Although we have a camping trip this weekend…. so we shall see!!

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow – just found this “waiting” area. I honestly thought it was in regards to waiting until the wedding for something else and since I’m not in the category, I never clicked on it.

Anyway, I’m 28 (almost 29) and have been with my boy for 2 years in July, he’s 31. We met at a Cubs game very randomly. We are both die hard Cubs fans. We’ve been living together since about a week after we started dating. He pretty much spent the night and never left. After about 3 months we officially moved in together. I think at that point we knew each other was “the one”. 

We always talked about getting married and kind of planned out about when we wanted to get engaged & married. In December I suggested we start saving together for a ring (at the time I was making a good deal more than he was and he was paying more than he could really afford to live with me). So it just made sense to save money together – after all once we’re married, isn’t it all ours anyway.

Well, things changed quickly and I’m now a full time student and he’s working two jobs, supporting me and we’ve managed to save up more than we had planned. So, about 2 weeks ago we started ring shopping. He’s come with, but now that I know what I want and have his input I’m pretty much on my own. He has very little free time and would rather spend it relaxing and going out with me than ring shopping. Once he ring is ready, it’s on him to purpose. So, I’m just waiting until we have a ring and he’s figured out how he wants to purpose. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s on our 2 year anniversary or my birthday which is five days later. Guess I’ll just have to wait and see.

 

Post # 76
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Newbee

Hi all!

I (joyfully!) discovered wedding blogs, and Weddingbee in particular, a few months ago. I’ve been easing myself into the swing of things (not because I’m not interested, more because it feels like sneaking delicious cookies), but haven’t been motivated to actively involve myself until stumbling upon this thread. I’m excited to have found others who are ‘waiting’!

Anyways, I am another young one; I’m 20, turning 21 in a few months, and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 3 years, most of which has been long-distance. Both of us recently completed our junior years at our respective colleges, and we will both be graduating in December, a semester early, so we can be together 6 months sooner. After graduation, I will be moving from California and he from Pennyslvania to Austin, TX, where we will kick off our lives together. Once we are done with school and settled there, a formal engagement will follow within the year. For a number of reasons I want to have a long engagement, so our wedding date will probably be sometime in 2013; the romantic in me wants March 31, our dating anniversary, but I’m not worried about making any formal decisions anytime soon.

Neither of us initially expected our relationship to be serious, but we were inescapably drawn to one another. We started dating during the final months of our senior year at a boarding high school in New Jersey. Since I was from the other side of the country and we would be heading to different colleges in the fall, we certainly did not intend to add the extra responsibility and commitment of a LDR into the mix. But sometimes love surprises you, and it certainly surprised us!

For the past 3 years we have balanced our relationship with school and family commitments. It has been especially challenging since, were we to let our relationship slide, we could literally never see each other again. He lives outside of Philadelphia and goes to school in Pittsburg, while I live in Las Vegas and go to school outside of Los Angeles. We’ve both become familiar with a lot of different airports! I would not change anything about our situation though. It has taught us a lot of important lessons about communication, prioritization, and commitment. Plus, by having to fight for it, it’s made us realize that this is something we want to fight for, and will continue to fight for, for the rest of our lives.

Now we are just waiting to make it formal until we have our p’s and q’s lined up (finishing school is obviously a big one!). We’re pretty traditional, and we want there to be some surprise, so he’s planning on proposing. We will definitely be looking at rings together though! We’re starting to look now so that when the time comes to make the purchase he will already know what I like, and I’ll never know decisively when it’s coming! We browsed in one store a few months ago (I was so surprised by the things I liked and didn’t like!), and are planning on looking more formally this weekend – exciting! πŸ™‚

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