1. Are you expecting a proposal soon, by when?
Yes? I was hopeful for Christmas but, realistically, unless someone outright gave him a ring for free — not likely — it’s not happening. I could see him maybe using some of his tax return and proposing in the spring. I’m not going to hold my breath because I was semi-promised a ring for my last birthday, but it’s an option.
2. How long have you been waiting?
Almost a year. We had the formal “I want to get engaged, like, soon” conversation in April, but I’ve been “waiting” since last Christmas.
3. Has engagement season been difficult for you?
Yes. I feel like I’m surrounded by radio ads, posters at bus stops, and pages upon pages of jewelry catalogue inserts in the newspaper. My boyfriend’s future SIL got engaged last Christmas and, although I knew it was coming, seeing their (SO and his brother) conversation after the opening of presents (and proposal, of course) just made it feel like a stab in the back (my Brother-In-Law basically told him that my SO was dragging his feet and that he should have been the one proposing that holiday season. He also made a point to tell him that I was likely feeling like crap having not been the one to receive a ring, which was accurate.) Everyone knows I’m starting to lose hope and being more and more insecure, and I’ve had a lot of people offer me sympathetic comments, like I’m a poor creature to be pitied. But I KNOW it’s not happening. I worked myself up thinking maybe, just maybe he’d be doing it, because he knows Christmas is my favorite holiday and he knows that I just want to get engaged, but knowing our finances it isn’t happening. So all the social media and ads and pitying comments just feel like salt in the wounds; like gnats I just want to swat away.
4. What are you getting your partner for Christmas?
Honestly, I don’t know. I want to get him a 3DS, but I haven’t bought it yet (next paycheck!) and he hasn’t told me what he wants for Christmas. I keep asking him and reminding him that I need something to go on, but he never gives anything other than a joke answer. I don’t want to go buy it for him unless it’s at least somewhat on his radar, but if he keeps giving me the silent treatment in terms of a wishlist, I might just buy it out of lack of options.
5. What do you want for X-mas? (Other than a ring LOL).
The ring (or even a proposal, sans-ring) is all I want 🙁 I keep trying to think things up, and I just can’t. I guess maybe an IOU/voucher for a nice meal out? We don’t eat out very often and never anywhere really nice; I’d eat my shoe if it meant getting a nice, juicy tenderloin.
6. Post a pic of the ring you want, and its stats if you know them!
I keep coming back to this one.
1 carat FB moissanite with diamond accents in rose gold. I can’t find a photo of it alone (sans-wedding band) without the milgrain, which I honestly don’t care about.