Post # 17
I am enjoying being a girlfriend, but I am more than ready to move on to the next stage. I dont care about a wedding or engagement…I just want to be married to the man that I love. I see the whole engagement process as a bandaid that has to be ripped off so that you can go on with your life.
Post # 18
@inspiration86: I’m not a door mat and had zero issues planning my wedding- its not drama for everyone! I enjoyed it. 🙂
Enjoy each stage!
Post # 19
Why is there such negative stigma of being ‘just a girlfriend’? There is just as much or sometimes even more commitment in my relationship with my boyfriend than some married and engaged couples around (not saying all, but some).
I want to be with my man forever, regarless of our relationship status. Of course I prefer to get married and luckily so does he. But I would never ever give up what we have for anything.
I do not believe fiance/wife > girlfriend. It’s just a name and does not define the level of love and commitment between two people.
Of course this is all just my opinion.
Post # 20
@inspiration86: this will probably be, why we’re eloping, lol(if he proposes) lol
Post # 21
@inspiration86: It CAN be stressful and drama filled, but it doesn’t have to be. Mine was not at all. I never felt pressured to do anything (it was my wedding and could have pressured me even if they wanted to, I am just not that kind of person) and It actually brought family and friends closer. I will always treasure my memories from the planning stage, but I don’t think it was the “happiest” phase of life (nor did I expect it to be). It was just another phase.
I think it’s great advice to try to enjoy your relationship at every stage (including girlfriend stage) but I definitely agree with others that it depends on the situation. When I got engaged I was VERY much ready and I would not have appreciated being a girlfriend much longer. We were both truly ready to move on and there’s no way I could have just accepted NOT moving forward.
It comes across a bit flippant to blanketly tell others on a board where you KNOW many are frustrated over waiting and truly ready to move to the next stage that they should “just enjoy it” because planning CAN be stressful and drama filled.