(Closed) Waiting bees – how much of your wedding do you have planned already? LOL

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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devlg:  Haha I thought that when I joined in too!

In terms of planning before getting engaged – I think I must be the craziest :/

I know where I’d like us to get married, how many guests, who my bridesmaids will be, who SO’s best man/men will be, pretty much what dress I want, the invitations I’d like…

Does it bring the crazy down at all if SO knows all of my ideas?!

Post # 32
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn

I didn’t plan at all before getting engaged. I had a secret Pinterest board for dresses and as soon as I got engaged I deleted it because I realized I wanted something totally different. It was weird, but it ended up being this organic thing that I didn’t know what I wanted until it happened and then I knew exactly what I wanted and he and I are on the same page. We’ve been having fun planning together and he’s been way more involved in the process than I expected. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Post # 33
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Recently married, but I had no pre-planning done.  I did not have a pinterest board until the wedding planner asked me to make one.  We were engaged 14m and really did all the planning in 10m.  Everyone said how well planned and executed our wedding was.  We had a church wedding with a reception at a hotel overlooking the water.  I can’t even imagine pre-planning.

Post # 34
42 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

Pre-planner here! I have a pinterest board full of ideas from the engagement party to the honeymoon. I set a budget and have a spreadsheet set up for the type of venues that I’d like to tour. I know the wedding colors, what DIY projects and decor I’ll be doing as well as the type of dress I want. I haven’t officially booked anything and gone dress shopping or anything like that. All I’m waiting for is the “GO” from SO (in the form of a ring, of course) and it is ON.

Post # 35
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2021 - Long Island, NY

I do have a pinterest board but I haven’t updated it recently. I have been considering what type of wedding we are going to have and right now I am leaning towards something small and intimate, maybe even a Destination Wedding. My SO doesn’t really care about the details of a wedding so I will likely be doing 98% of the planning.

Post # 36
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

I’m very aware of the fact that my parents are approaching retirement and so I’m concerned about having a wedding that’s going to be too expensive. My Future Brother-In-Law got married and had a BIG budget and my SO and I about fainted when we heard what it was. Not for us!

So I’m trying to get my ducks in line and have some options prepared for venues I like and that are within budget. I planned a work event last year for about 100 people so it was a good exercise to see what venues were out there in the city I want to get married in. I now have a preferred caterer for my wedding simply because they did such an excellent job at my work event!

We’ve discussed bridal parties together, mainly the fact that one of my friends will be quite miffed if I decide not to have her (her boyfriend will be in the party for sure). We’ve discussed who we would and wouldn’t invite and why and what size of wedding we’d like. We’re currently looking at rings ๐Ÿ˜€ I know I don’t want any engagement parties and I don’t really even want any showers.

I used to work in a flower shop and a tux shop so I’ve always got ideas swimming in my head for both of those and I did event planning for the better part of four years. Of course, have a Pinterst board, but my mind keeps changing on color options and the specifics. It will really depend on the time of year we end up getting married and what’s in season for flowers.

Post # 37
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

I am definitely one of those little girls that dreamed of their wedding from a young age! And have a more elaborate Pinterest board than I would like to admit. 

I change my mind on things, and I would want my SO’s input so everything is subject to change. However my SO and I are in agreement that the most important thing is having everyone we love at our wedding, but it being quite an intimate wedding because we both don’t like the attention on ourselves. And also to be an awesome party with plenty of food, booze and music!

I absolutely adore flowers so I would want a garden, floral wedding. My mother had a flower crown on her wedding day and I’ve always wanted the same. 

I have no idea what kind of dress I will wear until I try them on. But right now I’m feeling the backless lace dresses with a trumpet/a-line silhoutte and a long cathedral veil

Post # 38
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - The Tall Ship Elissa, Galveston, TX

Deposit is officially put down on venue, so now we have a firm date too.   He was flipping through a couple of Alfred Angelo catalogs and wanted to know, “How come they don’t have groom’s catalogs??” Actually, that’s a good question!

I’m just happy he’s excited about planning too! And if he would just cough up the damn proposal already, we could share out plans with actual family and friends, lol.   I’m glad I have my fellow waiting bees here!!





Post # 39
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’ve assisted in planning 3 weddings, my best friend from HS, my sisters and another friend, which is even how I found this site in the first place.I have a Pinterest with a ton of ideas, colors etc but nothing I’ve settled on like “oh, I want this for our wedding!”  I developed a decent following on Pinterest so the majority of stuff I post is for my followers, not necessarily what I want for myself.

The only thing I’ve really planned is pricing my top 3 venues to make sure they are affordable. (NYC is super expensive.)

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Post # 40
216 posts
Helper bee

My fiancé to be and I have pretty much preplanned everything. Nothig booked or set in stone but we communicate regularly about t and we know what we want. A small, intimate ceremony. We’ll be getting married June 2, 2017. He has my ering and will be proposing in January, or so his hints lead me to believe ๐Ÿ˜‰

As much as I cant wait To be engaged and plan out special day, I just really can’t wait for our future to start. ๐Ÿ™‚ he’s amazing.

Post # 41
11 posts

The first 4 years of my relationship I had faint ideas but never anything that I could confidently say I wanted. It was always the plan to do it together. Well I’m 6.5 years into my relationship with my SO and still no ring. So yeah, to keep me sane from the waiting (which will be longer now that my little sister got engaged, argg!) I’ve got a whole lot planned in the last 2 years then I’d admit to him.  Know my theme and my venue. Have a rough guestlist that will be reworked with the SO when the time comes. Know my budget. Know the rough timing though it’s really based on availability within July/Aug so my son isn’t in school. Have ideas for the honeymoon. Yeah. I’ve done my part. So lets get his part moving here! haha

Post # 42
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nzurikabisa:  I have a spreadsheet with a number of options for every aspect for planning, haha! I know it sounds little nuts but I have a number of options I like with pricing so that I can present them to my SO after we get engaged so he can also take part in the choice. Ultimately a lot of it will end up being my decision, since he wants to do a lot of things how I want them. 

There is a reason for this though…I come from a gigantic extended family, so people in my family typically elope or go for a small ceremony and send out announcements/have a barbeque after to avoid a 30-40k wedding just from the size of guest list. 

I never considered a wedding before but my SO comes from a more “traditional” family and would lose it if we didn’t have a wedding with all their family and friends. I felt like I needed to figure out how much I should start budgeting and preparing myself for so that I’m not overwhelmed when the time comes. I’m also logging some savy ways to cut costs where I can. It’s also a great time to learn the traditions and little things to consider when I haven’t been to many weddings before this year.

Post # 43
208 posts
Helper bee

I draw the line at buying things – for me, spending money on items for the theoretical wedding is too much because I change my mind so much that if I buy something, I might not like it in a year!

I do have a Pinterest. There’s a lot of stuff on it – mostly emerald and forest green. I’ve wanted green as my wedding color since I was like 14. I’ve planned things to a ridiculous degree, I’ll admit it, but I have a lot of fun doing it so why not? My SO tolerates it, even occasionally participates to humor me, so I appreciate that.

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