(Closed) Waiting bees: Is it hard to be happy for other engaged people in your life?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@loveknows:Is she supposed to be “into your wedding”??? The only people who are really “into” my wedding right now is our families and our bridal party.

 

Ok this website is pissing me off! All this maintenance crap and then quadruple posting!

Post # 4
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hmm not for me. I’m going wedding dress shopping with my cousin who is getting married in november. & her sister got married two weeks ago. I guess it was harder when I didn’t know when the proposal was going to happen. I only had a rough timeline that it was going to be this summer. Now I know its either this week or next and I’ve been more excited to do things for my cousin. 

I guess it would be hard if she’s been dating him for a while and has no idea whether it’s ever going to happen and I’m sure there is some jealousy there. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Terribly difficult when they first tell you, but once the idea settles in its usually good fun and exciting!

Besides.. I just know that there will be a waiting friend who will be feeling slightly antsy when *being optimistic now!!* I get engaged. So its all relative!

My turn will come *deep breath*

 

Post # 8
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Nope. I have plenty of things that person may not have in my life that they may be jealous about. Everyone doesn’t have everything. 🙂

I’ve never been into others wedding though.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

@loveknows: It can be hard if you don’t know the status for your own relationship. Once you know for sure when and where you’re headed, it’s much easier to be happy for someone else bc you know your turn is coming.

Post # 10
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Newbee

Yeah, it’s pretty difficult.  If you’re close with the person it eventually gets easier, but at first it really stinks.  

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Jealous?  No.  I would have involuntary emotional outbursts – I would find out someone got engaged and I would bawl uncontrollably – it could have been the mailman and I’d cry.  It wasn’t anything I could control either – it’s just how I was.  Like a PP said – once the shock has worn off, you get excited and are abe to get into it more.  I wouldn’t have missed my bff’s wedding for the world!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When I was waiting it was really hard to hear about other people’s engagements. I was happy for them, don’t get me wrong, but I always would start to question myself. This usually was worse when the engaged couple had been dating for less time than us. In the end I was always really happy for them but it did dig at me for a while.

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