Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m not a waiting bee, but I’ve noticed a trend and I was genuinely curious. Lately while scoping out Pinterest (both people I know on FB or strangers that pop up) I will see ‘future wedding’ or ‘future children’ boards, with all kinds of wedding, pregnancy and children’s ideas on there. I’m new to Pinterest and a little old fashioned / behind the times in my thinking, but I was wondering if this is common to plan your wedding openly if you’re not engaged? Mind you, I don’t care either way (I’m certainly not judging), like I said I’m new to all of this and was curious. When I was ‘waiting’ I *really* didn’t want anyone to know I was thinking of my wedding day or anything, because I was worried they would think I was depressed every time a weekend went by and I was still not engaged (Oh poor Merry, still no ring)….which I wasn’t. I wasn’t in a hurry to get engaged, but I did think about what I’d wear and what I’d want my ring to look like, etc. I was on the Bee before I was engaged, but never told anyone, LOL.
Now that I’m engaged, I have a wedding board and look at boards involving pregnancy or children (I’m a preschool teacher, so I like getting new ideas) but don’t have a board for them for the same reasons mentioned above, LOL. I was genuinely surprised when someone I know who only just started dating her BF repinned one of my wedding ideas, I actually went to her FB page to see if I had missed something, hahaha.
Post # 3
Lol! I’m not on Pininterest so I can’t talk!
I know a few waiting bees have arranged with their FFI that they can start planning. Some are just waiting for the ring to be finalised.
Who knows 🙂
Post # 4
I see people who have no SO with wedding boards, so to each her own I guess. I just know that everything I thought I wanted before I was with Fiance kind of went out the window because it’s you and someone else getting married and usually your idea of how want want the day to feel and look change because of that. So, it’s fun, but maybe not as useful as starting once you are really planning?
Post # 5
Well, I have those boards, but I’m not openly planning! Those are idea boards. That means that, 5 years from now when I have children, I may go back to those pictures and they will inspire me to create projects for them or decorate their rooms in a certain way. And, 4 months from now when I will be planning my wedding, I can go back to my wedding board and look over the pictures/links and see what I still like/ want to use. I personally don’t understand why Pinterest has to be a serious planning tool. For me it’s just a fun pinboard – someplace I can save the things I see and I like to use in the future.
ETA: To give an example, I just recently got an idea to use hydrangeas to decorate at least the reception/sweetheart table because my late grandmother who raised me used to love them. This will never change, I will want to use that even if I get married in 5 years. But I may forget it! This way I can save an idea on there, and not worry about it until I’m actually planning.
Post # 6
I have a wedding board, but it’s not serious planning. If I see something I really like I pin it, when I’m actually planning a wedding I can go back and look, and if there’s something I still like I’ll know where I saw it, instead of remembering I saw it and having no idea where!
Post # 7
LOL, my wedding board is actually a planning tool…it has given me so many ideas on how to do things and what to do, etc because I’m completely uncreative!
Post # 8
I have 2 wedding boards, 1 for stuff I want for our wedding and another “wedding ideas” board of wedding things I like in general. I had the wedding stuff board before being engaged bc I liked looking at wedding stuff. When we got engaged I added “stuff I want for our wedding” board. I do have a “baby love” board bc we do plan on TTC right after the wedding, so I’m just collecting ideas. I just like it as a reference of ideas to look back at.
Post # 9
i have a board now, but i used to just ‘like’ all the pictures i saw and wanted to remember! that way they didn’t come up on my boards, or my follower’s pages, and i could still find the things i liked!
i have a board now – even though i’m not officially engaged yet. it’s just nice to have a place to get all the creative ideas in one place!
i find it stranger that my friend has a wedding board, and uses it to upload multiple pics of the grounds of her venue – almost as though she doesn’t understand it? i think she uses it as a ‘this is what we’re doing!’ rather than ‘oooh i like that, i must remember it!’
Post # 10
I am a wedding bee… and am like you: I can’t stand the thought of people knowing I actually think about my wedding before even being engaged… Thus the secret pinterest profile 🙂
Post # 11
I just like to collect ideas about weddings and babies etc. Hence the title of my 2 board is The Future = Wedding, The Future = Little Ones. I’m not actively planning, but like most girls i like to think about what i would want my wedding to look like.
Post # 12
I have an engagement (rings and photos) ideas board and a wedding ideas board. They are just things I have come across that I like but nothing too serious or set in stone! It’s fun to see what other people have done! Also, mine is not linked to facebook nor does it have my real name so no one knows it is me!
Post # 13
I have a few pinterest boards, but the only friend who knows about it (because she is on there too) is exactly the same as me: an overly organised planner. So she doesnt judge 🙂
Post # 14
I’m not on pinterest but I just don’t know how it works. Basically in my situation though, I’ve been looking at wedding dresses and making plans MONTHS before I even joined the bee, and I still haven’t been proposed to (although last night we did purchase the ring and the proposal will be within the week or two). I’ve even started DIYs including my veil. He knew most of it, but I don’t bore him with the details of my DIYs just yet.
We discussed marriage for a good year and some months before the point we are at now, he knew I was looking at wedding things and such and things have been great. It really depends on the relationship and the couple.
Your friend though, could have just pinned it because in the future when she does eventually get married, to whomever that may be, she may want to remember that idea. Then again lots of people now a days are engaged by month 3. I thought when SO told me he loved me at month 3 that it might have been too soon. But had to admit I did love him too, but engaged at 3 months just seems absurd!
And btw, no one knows we are about to be engaged and no one knows the DIYs I’ve been doing are for the future wedding, they would think I was crazy. But that’s what I have the bee for, hopefully no one will link me with this name and I’ll be able to plan in secrecy 😀 <evil grin
Post # 15
I’ve been on Pinterest since before I was engaged & yep, I was one of those girls with a wedding inspiration board before I got the ring! My friends don’t know about the pinterest acct, & yeah I didn’t publicise my stalking of wedding sites pre-engagement!
Post # 16
I used to buy bridal magazines when I was 10 lol.
But yeah, I’m not yet engaged, and have no planning boards. Though, I do bookmark things privately for future reference.
One of my friends has a board named “Not even engaged” with all sorts of beautiful wedding related stuff. It’s all good. Many girls dream of the day way in advance.